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Blowjob Tip #2 – She’s In Charge, Here’s Why… (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 14:00:26 +0000

If you’re learning how to give a great blowjob, one of the best tips you can employ is being in charge and being confident of your abilities to give great head. Even if you’re new at it, being in charge can be pleasurable for both you and your partner. Here’s why!

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Why It’s Good For Him

Since most men take control during sex and even during a blowjob, logically, it doesn’t make sense that they would want to give up control, does it? But get this – most men take control during sex because they have no choice. Many women don’t know how to enjoy themselves during sex and end up lying there, making the man do all the work if he wants anything to happen. Guys are actually aching to give up control! What better way to get pleasure than to have a woman worship your penis and be completely devoted to giving you pleasure? It’s awesome! He loves it when you take control, let him lie back and enjoy the ride.

Why It’s Good For You

Taking charge when giving head is good for you because you get to do what you want to do. Don’t like a certain position? Try another one. Getting a jaw cramp? Switch to using your hand for a little while. Deep throating make you gag? Lick it like a lollipop instead. Of course you want to take his verbal and non-verbal feedback into account when using different techniques and do what he likes best, but you want to be comfortable and enjoy giving him head as much as he enjoys getting it.

Why You Need To Be Confident

It’s important to be confident – or at least appear that way – when you’re going down on your guy. Nothing ruins a great blowjob than a passive girl asking, “Am I doing this right?” or “Did I do something wrong?” Sure, you want to ask your man questions. But you want to use positive, confident phrases that assert your control, such as “Do you like this?” or “Does this feel good?” or even, “Tell me what feels good.” Your demeanor can actually make all the difference during fellatio. You want your man to relax and let go, feeling good about leaving you in the driver’s seat. Who wants to enjoy the ride with a driver who’s constantly worried they’ll wreck and asking you if they’re hitting the brakes right or accelerating properly?

A blowjob works much the same way – a guy just wants to know that you know what you’re doing (or at least perceive that you know what you’re doing) and get lost in the feeling of getting great head. So be confident and take charge! You’ll both like blowjobs a lot better if you do.

Think You Know How To Give A Great Blowjob? Take the Blowjob Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”

Blowjob Tip #1 – Why It’s a Gift, Not an Obligation (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 13:00:58 +0000

Men love to get blowjobs – in fact, many men prefer getting oral sex to vaginal intercourse and sometimes, it’s their favorite type of stimulation of all time. Naturally, women who want to please their partners want to find out the best blowjob tips and advice so they can be an oral sex master – here’s what you want to know on how to give the best blowjob!

Oral sex is one of the most intimate gifts we can give one another. When a woman gives a man oral or manual stimulation, you are giving him a very special gift. That means you’re in charge! Here are some tips to make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.

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The Greatest Sexual Gift

When a man gives a woman oral sex, he does what he thinks will make her feel good. When a woman gives a man oral sex, she let’s him take the reins and shows her how he likes it, even to the point of physically manipulating her to maximize his own pleasure. Not only can this be uncomfortable for a woman, it doesn’t allow her to give head as a “gift” to her partner. One of the great things about oral sex is that it’s one of the best sexual gifts you can give. Since oral sex provides the giving partner no physical stimulation whatsoever, the focus is totally on the receiving partner and their pleasure. So to give oral sex to someone means you’re focusing on their pleasure and their pleasure alone. When a man takes the reins when she’s giving him a blowjob, that takes away from the fact that she’s “giving” him a sexual gift, making her feel more used than treasured.

Women In The Driver’s Seat

If you’re going to go down on him, it’s time to sit in the driver’s seat. Let your partner know that you’re in control and that you’re giving him the gift of oral sex – so he just needs to sit back and enjoy it! Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back if you have to (which can, of course, add to the fun) but it’s important that he doesn’t try to take control while you’re giving him oral sex. If he’s not the submissive type, it may be an adjustment, but in the long run, allowing you to enjoy giving him the gift of oral sex – instead of making it an obligation or making you feel used – will give him more pleasure. He’ll like watching you enjoy it and he’ll get blowjobs more often!

Listen To His Feedback

It’s essential that you listen to his verbal and non-verbal feedback when you’re giving your partner fellatio. While you get to pleasure him how you’d like, listening to what makes him feel good is important. For example, if he lets you know verbally what he likes, make sure you incorporate that into your blowjob routine. You can also listen to your partner’s non-verbal feedback. For example, if your partner is quiet or doesn’t seem to be getting into it, change what you’re doing. If your partner starts making noise and showing that he’s really enjoying what you’re doing, keep doing what you’re doing! Otherwise, your partner should lie back, relax and enjoy your oral sex gift!

Think You Know How To Give A Great Blowjob? Take the Blowjob Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”

What Are Crabs And How Do You Get Them? Dangerous Sex Toys? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 14:00:41 +0000

You’ve probably heard of the term “crabs” before, and we don’t mean the kind you get at the local seafood joint. Crabs are a curable, although annoying, sexually transmitted disease that you can get a number of ways – including non-sexual ways, such as sharing underwear with someone if it hasn’t been washed in hot water first.

Virgin girl gets crabs – did she get them from her sister’s vibrator or from somewhere else? What exactly are crabs, how do you get them and what can you do to get rid of them?

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What Are Crabs?

Crabs are lice – like head lice, only much smaller, that live in the pubic area. Crabs are tiny and hard to spot, and lay eggs on the hair shaft or follicle like head lice do. Crabs are generally spread through sexual contact, although this doesn’t have to include penetration. Any sexual contact, including vaginal sex, anal sex, or any type of pubic area to pubic area contact. People with crabs (also known as pubic lice) don’t always look like they have pubic lice, and it can be hard to spot. If you have multiple sex partners, make sure you check yourself regularly.

Symptoms of crabs include white dots – which are the crabs’ eggs – in your pubic hair (easier to see if your pubic hair is dark) and can often be spotted easily with a magnifying glass. Intense itching is one of the most common symptoms, even before you begin to see eggs. If you suspect that you might have pubic lice, see your doctor. Your doctor can prescribe a simple shampoo that will remove the crabs as well as their eggs.

Avoiding Crabs

There are some ways you can avoid getting crabs, although, if you have multiple sex partners, it can be difficult to spot right away and you might come into contact with them. You can also get crabs from wearing unwashed underwear of someone who has crabs, or sharing sex toys with someone who has crabs. To avoid exposing yourself to crabs, avoid sharing sex toys with anyone, and always wash your sex toys after use (even if you’re the only one who uses them. You might not get crabs from yourself, but it’s just better hygiene and will avoid spreading unwanted bacteria). You can use a special sex toy cleaner, or simple soap and hot water.

Getting Educated

While crabs are an unwanted sexually transmitted disease, they’re curable and certainly not one of the worse. Many other infections and sexually transmitted diseases can be spread by sharing sex toys or having multiple sex partners. Many of these infections can be treated, but some can’t. It’s important to educate yourself about sexually transmitted diseases and infections and learn how they’re transmitted, what the symptoms are and how you can protect yourself. Using condoms greatly reduces your risk of contracting a number of STD’s and infections. You’re worth the time it takes to explore different resources and take charge of your sexual health. Being smart, safe and informed can save you a lot of time, money, heartache and health problems later.

Does Sex Always Equal Babies? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:00:08 +0000

Sex education these days is at a low, especially considering our social growth and development in other areas of our lives. While we love exploring why educating our youths about sex is so taboo, this time we’re talking babies. We’re going to answer the simple, yet age old question – does sex always equal babies?

Most people know this, but some of you may not. Does sex always equal babies? Do you have a baby for every time you have sex? Here’s what you want to know about the fundamentals of sex and pregnancy!

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Egg, Sperm, Birds And Bees

To address whether sex always equal babies, first you need to understand the fundamentals of what creates a baby. What it takes to make a baby is simply 1 sperm to fertilize 1 egg. While men release millions of sperm each time they ejaculate, women only drop 1 egg a month (generally, with the exception of twins) within a window of about 3 days, during which the egg can be fertilized. So while you may have sex 30 times in one month, or 5 times in one month, that does not equal how many babies you will have. Most of the millions of sperm that enter the vagina during unprotected intercourse will die before ever reaching the egg, thousands do reach the egg and all it takes to fertilize it is 1. Sperm can also live in the vagina for about three days as well, so these events don’t always have to happen back to back or in order for a pregnancy to occur. In fact, you may release an egg before you have unprotected sex, but still end up pregnant.

Educate Yourself

You can’t rely on your parents or even schools to educate you about sex, so it’s important for you to take that step and start educating yourself. Read about female and male anatomy and broaden your understanding about sex and pregnancy and how they relate to each other. There are a ton of resources available to you through your local health department, the library and websites that can help you understand the basics of pregnancy and sex, as well as human anatomy. Knowledge is power and it’s important to be informed and smart when it comes to sex and you can never learn too much.

Always Risky

When you have unprotected sex, you’re always running the risk of becoming pregnant. Even protected sex isn’t completely, 100% effective. All it takes is 1 sperm and 1 egg. Know that any sex (even protected) can result in a pregnancy, even if it isn’t a pregnancy for every time you have sex. Every time you have sex, you risk getting pregnant. If you aren’t planning on having a baby or don’t want one, take measures to protect yourself when having sex. Abstinence is the only 100%, foolproof way to prevent pregnancy, but condoms, spermicide and birth control work well in reducing the risk of pregnancy, especially when used in conjunction with other pregnancy prevention methods. Condoms are the only safer sex method that will protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. Do your research – it pays to be informed.

Female Orgasm Tip #6 – Clitoral Circles (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 14:00:08 +0000

Whether you’re jumping in to our orgasm tips series now or have been following us since Tip #1, this next tip is going to be one of your “go to” moves in the bedroom. Tip # 6 is all about the clitoris – which almost every woman loves! While the g-spot can be difficult to find, the clitoris is usually not, and is one of the most sensitive areas on a woman’s genitals. In fact, the clitoris’ only job is to provide pleasure for a woman! It does absolutely nothing else. So watch this video and make this easy tip one of your partner’s favorites!

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Why Circles?

The clitoris is extremely sensitive – which is a good thing. But it can pose a problem if you’re angled the wrong way, because too much clitoral stimulation can be painful. For example, a tongue or finger stroke upwards from the bottom of the clitoris to the top is probably one of the worst moves you can make (except if your partner is very turned on and well lubricated). This move actually lifts the clitoral hood and exposes the sensitive inner clitoris, which can become painful if your partner isn’t turned on and for some women, it’s always painful. Clitoral circles provide stimulation to the clitoris without lifting the protective clitoral hood, giving your partner a great feeling without overdoing it.

Varying Your Strokes

All you have to do is move your tongue or finger in circles around your partner’s clitoris. It’s that simple and it’s a great technique to use during oral sex. If you’re looking for a more complicated, blow-her-mind-move, all you have to do with this stroke is vary the pressure and width of your circles. Start slowly, with wider, softer circles, and graduate to firmer, smaller circles right on the clitoris. Mix it up a little in between if you feel like it! Just remember that if you’re using your hands or fingers to make sure your nails are clean and trimmed and you use a generous dab of lube. Hangnails can hurt!

Why It Will Be One Of Her Favorite Moves

The clitoral circles technique will soon become one of your partner’s favorite moves and rightly so – it’s a fantastic feeling for her and easy for you to do! She’ll love it because she’ll get stimulation everywhere on her clitoris (and her vagina too if you use wide circles in conjunction with smaller ones) including the top, bottom and sides. Many clitoral maneuvers stick to just one area or side of the clitoris, providing pleasure but only in one spot. Clitoral circles will practically envelop her in pleasure! You can also use this technique in conjunction with clitoral sucking (not too hard) and g-spot stimulation. Don’t forget to utilize our other techniques as well while you’re using Tip #6, such as paying attention and getting your partner turned on and warmed up. As we go over each tip in the female orgasm series, it’s your job to put them all together and learn how to make them work for you so you can become the master of your partner’s orgasms – and a master of the bedroom!

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Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

Female Orgasm Tip #5 – Are You Paying Attention? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 15:24:14 +0000

Giving a woman an orgasm can seem mystifying, but with a few tips and tricks, you’ll find yourself giving your partner more orgasms than you ever thought possible! You’ll definitely have her begging for more. So here’s another, much anticipated orgasm tip – one you need to add in the bedroom ASAP!

Do you really know how she’s feeling? Is she close to orgasm? How can you tell? Watch this video to find out!

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Awareness

Okay, awareness. That sounds kind of vague, right? Of course, but it’s an excellent principle to apply when you’re pleasuring your partner. When you’re giving your partner oral sex, massaging her g-spot or having intercourse with her, you’re trying to give her an orgasm. Simple. So why not pay attention to what she’s feeling? Sounds logical. You’d be surprised, however, at how many men think that “A + B = ORGASM” and only follow their “game plan” without being aware of how their partners are feeling in that very moment. Women, however, aren’t like mathematical formulas, and the same actions will not always get the same reaction at any given time. So to give your partner the type of orgasm she really wants, it’s time to learn how to pay attention to what she wants, how she wants it and when she wants it!

Cause And Effect

The most important part of great sex is being aware of what you’re doing and aware of your partner’s reactions to what you’re doing at all times. It sounds complicated, but it’s not. For example, if you’re giving your partner oral sex, listen to her moans, groans and body language to let you know if you’re doing it right or not. If your partner doesn’t seem into a certain move, change what you’re doing and listen and feel for the effect. Does she buck her hips, or let out a squeal? If so, keep doing what you’re doing. With every action there’s a reaction – and it may not always be in the form of “that’s perfect, stay right there” or “a little to the left” (although if you’re good at communicating with your partner, she might give you these types of directions) but she’ll definitely let you know if she’s liking what you’re doing or not in some way or another. You just have to pay attention!

Give Up Your Game Plan

To succeed at giving your partner an amazing orgasm (or many amazing orgasms) you first have to abandon your game plan. Having an idea of how to start pleasuring your partner is good, however, don’t get caught up in what you’re going to do next and after that and after that. It could all change depending on how your partner is feeling that day and what she likes. She may want it soft and subtle one day and hard and rough the next. Part of being an excellent lover and a master of female orgasms is being able to adapt yourself to your partner’s reactions and change what you’re doing based on what she’s communicating to you that she wants. Communication comes in a variety of different formats, including body language, non-descript vocalizations or straight up directions. You never know what you’re going to get, so make sure you’re paying attention for anything that comes your way and be ready to adapt to what your partner wants – she’ll be putty in your hands!

Think you understand Female Orgasms? Take the Orgasm Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

How To Get More Sex In Your Relationship (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 14:00:45 +0000

It’s common in a long term relationship or a marriage for sex to be on the bottom of your to-do list. It may escape you how it became a “to-do” at all, but most everybody at some point in their lives find that sex comes after chores, taking care of the kids and work. Most everybody wishes it were different though! Most people want to have more sex, better sex and hotter sex! Here’s how.

Not having as much sex as you once did? Has your sex life become a total bore? Here are some great ways to spice up your sex life and make it more interesting so that you both actually want to have sex more often!

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Variety Is Key

If you want more sex in your relationship, variety is key. It’s important to have variety in the bedroom to avoid getting into a sex rut. It’s easy to fall into a sex rut – some people have sex at the same time, in the same position and do the same things each and every time they have sex. While a sexual routine can be comfortable, you tend to put off “comfortable sex” for other things. It’s important to have variety to keep sex from becoming boring or “blah.” If the sex in your relationship is never or rarely the same, you’re going to be less apt to put it off and more apt to put it first.

Long Term Relationships Have More Sexual Benefits

Believe it or not, the myth that sex is better if you have sex with lots of different people is just that – a myth. You can actually experience the best sex of your life in a long term relationship. Why is that? When you’re more comfortable with someone, it’s easier to share your fantasies with them and try new and different things. Yes, getting comfortable with someone can easily lead to “comfortable” sex, but if you put a little effort into it, being comfortable with someone can equally end up in kinkier, hotter and better sex than you’ve ever had in your life.

How To Spice Up Your Sex

Roleplaying is a great way to add something different to your sex “routine.” You can experiment with different types of roleplaying, such as switching dominant and submissive roles, or you can act out fantasies such as the “teacher” and “student” or “maid.” Costumes are fun too and can make roleplaying seem more real. Another way to spice up your sex life is to give your partner different types of orgasms. Touch different areas on your partner, such as her clitoris, her g-spot, his penis, his scrotum, and his perineum. Don’t forget nipples, lips and neck too!

You can also try new positions with your partner. Different positions will feel different sexually and stimulate different areas as well. Another great way to spice up your sex life is to check into a hotel for a night or a weekend! It’s a perfect way to get out of the house and away from your responsibilities for something fun and different.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Sex God Method’: “If You Want to Give Women Screaming Orgasms, This Video May Be The Most Important Video You’ll Ever Watch”

Does Masturbation Reduce Fertility In Men? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 14:00:04 +0000

There are many myths when it comes to male (and even female) masturbation. Some old wives tales continue to circulate, such as the myth that men get hairy palms or go blind if they masturbate. Fortunately, most of us have been able to sort out the truth from the lies, but some questions aren’t so bogus – what about masturbation, fertility and erections? What are the facts?

Many men want to know – does masturbation reduce fertility in men? Does it affect their ability to have an erection? Watch this video for the answer…

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The Straight Facts

Masturbation does not reduce fertility in men. This is a common misconception, but a generally a man’s testicles are able to reproduce sperm at a high rate. Frequent masturbation, such as daily masturbation or masturbation more than once a day, may temporarily reduce sperm count, but won’t affect fertility in the long term. Masturbation, especially during the teen years, won’t affect a man’s fertility at all in his life, although there are other factors (such as which type of underwear are worn) may affect fertility temporarily. Other things that can affect sperm count are exercise and medications. If you’re concerned about your fertility, see a doctor to discuss your lifestyle and daily habits to find out which ones are most conducive to being fertile.

Masturbation And Erectile Dysfunction

Masturbation also does not affect a man’s ability to get an erection, now or later in life. In fact, masturbation can help with sexual relief and can sometimes help with impotency (practicing getting an erection and finding out what is arousing), and even frequent masturbation won’t cause or speed up erectile dysfunction in later years. Erectile dysfunction can be caused by age, medication and some other factors. The best thing to do if you’re worried about erectile dysfunction or think you may have problems getting an erection is see your doctor. Your doctor can investigate different reasons you might be having erectile problems. Don’t worry – any erectile dysfunction you’re experiencing now wasn’t caused by frequent masturbation when you were younger.

If You’re Trying To Have A Baby

That said, if you’re trying to have a baby with your partner, masturbating frequently, such as every day or multiple times during the day, probably isn’t the best idea. Many fertility doctors will tell a man to discontinue masturbating and have sex with his partner instead to try to get their partner pregnant, but this is simply to provide more opportunity for sperm to reach an egg. It has nothing to do with masturbation lowering sperm count and affecting a man’s ability to get his partner pregnant.

Normal Masturbation?

Of course, male (and female) masturbation is normal and a healthy part of any sex life. It’s important to find out what pleases you and can be a quick way to relieve sexual frustration and provide satisfaction, especially if you’re not sexually active with a partner. Some people, however, think that frequent masturbation is too much – but how much is too much? That really comes down to personal preference. As long as it doesn’t become an addiction that adversely impacts your life in other ways, “right” is a different number for each of us.

Sex Tip: How To Give Her A G-Spot Orgasm (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 14:00:05 +0000

Finding the g-spot can be difficult, but once you’ve found it, you may feel like you’ve struck oil, or reached the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow! Hold on – you’re not done yet. Once you’ve found a woman’s g-spot (and every woman is different, but it’s located in the same general area), it’s time to give her an amazing g-spot orgasm. Many women say this is the deepest, most powerful type of orgasm they’ve ever had. So are you ready to rock your woman’s world?

Now that you’ve watched the video on how to find the g-spot, in this video you’ll find out how to give her a g-spot orgasm both with your fingers and through intercourse plus you’ll also discover the two biggest things that must happen before she’ll be able to have a g-spot orgasm. We want to know – have you ever experienced a g-spot orgasm, or know someone that has? Share with us on our YouTube page!

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Stimulating Her G-Spot With Your Fingers

Once you’ve found it, stimulating your partner’s g-spot takes a little more pressure than you would normally use if your were stimulating your partner’s clitoris. Stimulating your partner’s g-spot is actually quite simple – just rub back and forth, back and forth and side to side in a curved, “come here” motion with your fingers. Communicate with your partner to make sure you’re using the type of pressure she likes and that you’re in the right spot. Communicating with your partner sexually can be as easy as asking a question, or listening to your partner’s vocalizations and body language.

Stimulating Her G-Spot With Your Penis During Intercourse

Stimulating your partner’s g-spot during intercourse is a little bit more difficult that stimulating it with your fingers. It’s not impossible though – it just involves a little more patience and some tricky angles. The reason your fingers work so well to stimulate your partner’s g-spot is that they’re curved, and most penises aren’t curved. Therefore, you have to use different positions to angle your penis towards your partner’s g-spot. The best positions for g-spot stimulation during sexual intercourse are woman-on-top, where she can control the angle, pressure and speed of the stimulation, doggy-style, and missionary position with her legs on your shoulders. All of these positions allow for the head of the penis to more directly stimulate the g-spot, and some of them allow for g-spot stimulation in conjunction with clitoral stimulation for a possible blended orgasm.

An Essential Component To G-Spot Bliss

For a woman to have a g-spot orgasm, she must be completely and totally relaxed, and completely and totally turned on. Going from zero to sixty in a few minutes isn’t going to give your partner a g-spot orgasm, but she’s more likely to have one if you’ve spent a lot of time with your partner using foreplay, stimulating her nipples and licking her clitoris. She’s even more likely to have a g-spot orgasm if she’s had a clitoral orgasm or two first. Women who reach orgasm don’t come down completely like a man does after an orgasm – they stay at a slightly lowered state of heightened arousal, so it’s easier for them to reach multiple orgasms. A woman needs to be absolutely comfortable with her partner too – so spend time talking to each other and really getting to know each other too.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Sex God Method’: “If You Want to Give Women Screaming Orgasms, This Video May Be The Most Important Video You’ll Ever Watch”

Sex God Method Review – How To Give Her Toe-Curling Orgasms Sooo Intense, She’ll Beg You For More

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 17:20:05 +0000

How do you get better at sex? Is there some tried and true way to improve your sexual stamina, your sexual appeal and your sexual technique? Or does it just happen? So many men ask themselves these same things every day – how can I become a sex god? How can I really, truly please my woman in bed like she’s never been pleased before?

Here are some surprising facts about sex that even the most sexually aware man probably doesn’t know:

Psychological stimulation is the most important factor in sex
Dominance is an important characteristic for a man to have if he is going to succeed during sex
Being a sexual master isn’t about learning new things, it’s about unlearning bad habits
Sex is intensely emotional and it’s impossible to hide our emotions during sex
There is no reason for a woman to be unfaithful if you rock her world every time you have sex
Perfect sexual technique sounds great on paper, but is effectively ineffective in the bedroom

It is absolutely amazing how many men out there are doing exactly the things they shouldn’t be doing if they want to become a master of sex. For example, how often does the polite, respectful man get anything other than plain, vanilla sex? What about the ultra cool, pick up artist that takes home practically every woman he sees? He doesn’t enjoy the sex, he just enjoys the thrill of the hunt.

How many guys have found themselves doing everything right in the bedroom, getting his woman to cum multiple times, having amazing sex and then all of a sudden things start to fizzle? Sex wasn’t the way it was – or it is the same way it was, it’s just not as good anymore. What’s a guy to do?

What if you could become a sex god? What if you could unlearn all of your bad behaviors and learn how to give any woman the most intense and pleasurable sex of her life? You would immediately say YES! Wouldn’t you?

We recently had the opportunity to read an amazing book on this very topic from our good friend Daniel Rose called “The Sex God Method”. To put it bluntly… He just nailed it! This is a must read book for any man – period.

The Sex God Method will teach you what you need to know to rock a woman’s world in bed. It explains everything you’ve been doing wrong, changes your entire perception about sex and teaches you the attitude you need to have if you want to be a sex master. In fact, the Sex God Method is only for men who want a total and complete makeover in the sex department – this book is definitely not for men who want an easy fix.

Here’s just a sneak peek at what the Sex God Method will show you:

The Four Principles of Sex that will turn your world upside down
How to make psychological stimulation override physical stimulation
How emotions in the bedroom can make sex the most powerful you and your partner have ever felt
How to become dominant and manhandle your woman (in a good way) to make her want more
How to tease her the right way
Using variety during sex with your partner to keep sex from getting boring
How to use extended teasing to get your girl to reach the Continuously Orgasmic State
Learn how to be a Shape shifter in bed
Eliminate limiting beliefs that get you nowhere when it comes to great sex

What is so unique about the Sex God Method is that it doesn’t teach you specific techniques that will make your woman cum over and over again, it teaches you how to be the man that makes your woman cum over and over again.

A small word of warning when it comes to the Sex God Method – while it’s theme is that women inherently want to be dominated, society teaches them that this is somehow offensive. Let your girl get hold of this book and you might get into trouble, because while the Sex God Method is revolutionary, it can easily be misconstrued by someone not in the right mindset.

Also, if you use the DEVI method taught in this book, your partner IS very likely going to become addicted to sex. She’s liable to to become absolutely addicted to your sex like a drug, and she’s going to want her fix every time you turn around. Employ the Sex God Method only if you’re willing and ready to give your sex life a complete overhaul.

“Completely original sex advice that is revolutionary and counter-intuitive. Definitely a must read for all men.” -Maxim

So if you’re ready to become a complete sex god and have your woman cumming all over you again and again, download the Sex God Method today. It might just be the best thing that ever changed your sex life.

And be sure to check out the 2 minute video on the Sex God Method website, to find out How To Avoid The Single BIGGEST Mistake Almost All Men Make In Bed.

Sick Or Sexy – When He’s Daddy In The Bedroom (Video)

Paul Carlson — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 14:42:27 +0000

Everyone has their own kinks and fantasies that they like to play out in the bedroom. Whether it’s simple, missionary on top sex, or really kinky BDSM, everyone has something they like and enjoy doing when it comes to their own sexual satisfaction. Many people enjoy talking dirty, or roleplaying in the bedroom, but is there ever a point where this can go too far?

What happens when we start carry those term of endearment into the bedroom? Watch this video to find out if it’s normal to call each other ‘mommy’ and ‘daddy,’ even when the kids aren’t around.

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Using “Mommy” And “Daddy” To Refer To Your Partner

Lots of parents call each other “Mommy” or “Daddy” in front of the kids, and sometimes when they’re alone just out of habit. This is a completely normal part of parental life, especially if you’re teaching very little ones what to call your partner. If you refer to your partner as “Jeff” all the time, but ask your little one to call him “Daddy,” she might get confused. It can definitely help teach little ones if you and your partner call each other “Mommy” and “Daddy” too. But is there ever a point where these terms of endearment aren’t normal?

Using “Mommy” And “Daddy” In The Bedroom

It may be out of habit, or it may be a bit of fun roleplaying, but sometimes the terms “Mommy” and “Daddy” get carried away in the bedroom. Some people even like to roleplay with those terms, with “Mommy” punishing her bad boy, or her partner asking, “Who’s your Daddy?” This may seem strange, or even sick, but it’s just part of roleplaying. If both partners are into it, and both partners are comfortable and emotionally mature enough to realize that it is just a roleplaying game, there’s certainly nothing wrong with it, just as there is nothing wrong with playing “teacher” in the bedroom, or “french maid.” As long as everyone involved is having fun and isn’t getting hurt, there’s no reason to think there’s something “wrong” with you. If someone becomes uncomfortable, find a new game to play. It’s as simple as that.

When It Crosses The Line

There is a point where being “Mommy” in the bedroom (or being “Daddy” for that matter) can cross the line. If you’re playing “Mommy” and your partner is thinking of his own mother, there are some psychological issues there that probably need to be addressed. Although, your partner is the only one that will ever know that, so it’s up to him to seek help if he finds that he’s having these kids of issues. Also, if being “Daddy” in the bedroom leads a man into psychological or physical abuse of his own children because he’s so into it, that is definitely a call for professional help. Other than that, it’s very hard for two, emotionally mature, consenting adults to make roleplaying “Mommy” and “Daddy” in the bedroom go too far. So what do you think? Is it sick or sexy?

Sex Tip: How To Find The G-Spot (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 20:42:12 +0000

Just about everyone has heard of the g-spot. It’s supposedly the “holy grail” of all female sexual stimulation – so why can’t anyone find it? If you do get lucky and find a woman’s g-spot, how to heck are you supposed to stimulate it? Here’s a quick and easy guide to simple, g-spot stimulation that works flawlessly each time and every time.

It’s amazing how many men and women don’t know how to find the g-spot! Watch this video to find out exactly what the g-spot is and how to find it!

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What Is The G-Spot?

The g-spot is a ball of nerve endings inside a woman’s vagina. Similar to a clitoris, these nerve endings pick up sexual stimulation and allow women to have orgasms. The g-spot is important, because most of the inner vagina doesn’t have nerve endings – which is why most women can’t feel a tampon if it’s inserted properly. So to truly stimulate your partner’s vagina, it’s important to find the g-spot and learn how to stimulate it to give your partner a great internal orgasm. It also allows you to vary the types of orgasms you can give your partner, instead of relying only on clitoral orgasms.

How To Find The G-Spot

Contrary to popular belief, the g-spot isn’t terribly hard to find. It’s located just inside a woman’s vagina, on the top, right behind the pubic bone. To find the g-spot, all you have to do is insert one or two fingers inside your partner’s vagina, with your palm up. The g-spot is about finger length away from the opening of the vagina, so once your fingers are in, feel along the top of her vagina and behind the pubic bone for a spongy, bumpy spot. Most of the vagina is smooth, so you’ll probably be able to distinguish the g-spot from the rest of her vaginal tissue. If your partner is turned on, however, the g-spot will be swollen and a little easier to find. Many men who couldn’t find the g-spot probably tried to do so when their partner wasn’t turned on mentally or physically, so the g-spot was much smaller and more hidden. If you want success the first time, make sure you kiss your partner, fondle her, stimulate her nipples and turn her on before you start searching for her “holy grail.”

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Stimulating the g-spot is actually quite easy too – after you’ve located it with your fingers along the top wall of her vagina, simply move your fingers towards you and back in a continuing “come here” motion. You can also tap the g-spot, or move your fingers from side to side for additional stimulation. If you really want to get your partner going, try giving her a blended orgasm by combining g-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation. This is most successful if you can provide her with oral sex while you finger her g-spot, but you can use your other hand or even a toy if you want to give her unexpected sensations.

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Is My Penis Too Big To Fit? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 14:00:10 +0000

Many men worry about having a penis that is too small to really pleasure their partner. On the other side of the spectrum, however, there are some men that have penises that may be so large that they end up hurting their partner. Vaginas are designed to stretch and accomodate a variety of penis sizes, however, what if he is just too big to fit?

A boyfriend’s penis might be too big for his girlfriend – even when she’s excited, he often ends up hurting her. What can he do to make sex more comfortable for her and more enjoyable for both of them?

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A Medical Problem?

Most vaginas can accomodate a wide variety of penis sizes. Most vaginas can stretch to allow penises of just about any size to fit, regardless of how large or small. But some medical conditions can make a vagina unable to stretch and accomodate a large penis, including a medical condition called vaginismus. In some forms of vaginismus, the PC muscles actually clamp down, making penetration virtually or completely impossible. In other, more common, forms of vaginismus, the PC muscles tighten but don’t clamp down completely, allowing penile penetration but with pain, burning and a feeling of excessive tightness. Fortunately, vaginismus is highly treatable with vaginal dilators – a medical tool that is used at home to lightly stretch the PC muscles and allow the vagina to become more pliable. Click here to learn more about vaginismus.

Visit The Doctor

Some people aren’t physically compatible with each other sexually. Sometimes the puzzle pieces just don’t fit, and there are tons of ways to enjoy each other sexually and intimately if sexual intercourse is too painful. However, this is the rarest of cases. Often, medical problems or issues are at fault for painful sex. Infections, STD’s, pregnancy, and a multitude of other conditions are more likely to cause painful sex than just penis size and physical sexual incompatibility.

Go to the doctor – the doctor is a “body mechanic” and his or her job is to find out why your equipment isn’t working right. If you’re embarrassed to talk to the doctor about what is going on in your sex life, it’s time to find a new doctor. You should be comfortable talking to your doctor about everything. Your doctor can conduct tests that can tell you if an underlying medical problem is at fault for the painful sex you’ve been experiencing, or if it is just your anatomy.

Enjoy Each Other In Other Ways

Believe it or not, there are other ways to be sexual and intimate with your partner than through intercourse. Genital massage and oral sex are very popular, and some people enjoy anal sex instead of vaginal sex. Go to a sex therapist, or even visit an adult store (lots of online stores feature tons of products that you can shop for from the privacy of your own home) to find a few different things that you and your partner would like to try, and it’s a great way to get different ideas about positions, lubricants and male and female sexual stimulation.

The Secrets Of True Sexual Confidence (Video)

Melody Brooke — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 14:00:58 +0000

Sexual confidence – or confidence at all, really – is a touchy subject. A lot of people believe they’re sexually confident, but inside they’re incredibly insecure, waiting for someone else validate their standing as a sexual human being. Most women know they’re insecure, but still try to hide it. How do we become truly sexually confident, accepting ourselves for who we are and the sexual human being we are?

Watch this video to find out what TRUE sexual confidence really is…. It’s not what you think! Visit our YouTube page and tell us what you think true sexual confidence is!

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Social Influences

Believe it or not, society dictates how we feel about ourselves. Should it be that way? No. Is it that way? Unfortunately, yes. The images in the media, in magazines and in commercials teach us what “sexy” and “beautiful” are and if we don’t look, act or talk in the way that the media depicts as “sexy” and “beautiful,” then we aren’t either. Unfortunately, society’s ideas about what sexy and beautiful are happen to be incredibly narrow. And even more unfortunately, we use this as a standard against which to judge ourselves.

Acceptance From Others

In addition to using society’s ideas of what sexy and beautiful are to measure ourselves, we also wait for someone else to accept us (usually our partners) before we accept and love ourselves. This is incredibly backwards, because often in a relationship, you must love and accept yourself before someone else can fully love and accept you and you can fully love and accept someone else. Looking at yourself through society’s eyes and through your partner’s eyes won’t get you far – instead, you need to look at yourself with your own eyes and find the love and beauty within.

Being Sexually Confident

If you’ve taken a step to love and accept yourself before expecting anyone else to love and accept you, congratulations. But it’s likely that other people in your life are still looking for your acceptance of them before they start loving and accepting themselves. Are you giving your partner the love and acceptance they want and need? If not, start! Talk to your partner about where you’re at in the relationship, and what you need to be in the relationship. Have open and honest communication with your partner of where you stand, so you can be loved and accepted for who you are.

It takes a lot to shed the human need to be validated by society, but it’s something each and every one of us must do in order to start seeing ourselves in a realistic light. Society’s ideas about what is beautiful and sexy are skewed, and we need to learn to see ourselves as sexy and beautiful for who we are – because sexy is who you are. Make that scary jump right now and decide that you’re not going to be worried about whether society says you’re too fat or too thin, not pretty enough or not sexy enough. Accept yourself for who you are and learn to be sexy in your own skin. Love and accept yourself before expecting anyone else to love and accept you, and you’ll feel, look and be sexually confident.

What Is The Best Age To Start Having Sex? (Video)

Paul Carlson — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 14:00:38 +0000

Teenagers (and some adults) are have been asking for quite some time, “What is the right age to start having sex?” Teens are asking because they want to know when they get the green card to let their hormones take control, and adults are asking because they want to know when they should give their teenagers that same green card. So when is the best age to start having sex, and does it differ from person to person and family to family?

So what is the right age to have sex for the first time? What’s the right age to enter into a sexual relationship? Here are our often controversial thoughts on this topic, and we want to know what your thoughts are on this topic – when do you think the best age is for someone to start having sex? Check out our YouTube page and leave a comment!

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Be Safe And Be Smart

Before we start discussing what age you should or shouldn’t start having sex at, let’s address safe sex at any age. People can recommend that magic “age” all they want, but when it boils down to it, each person is going to make that choice for themselves. So whatever age you decide to have sex for the first time, make sure you’re being safe! Unprotected sex leads to sexually transmitted diseases and infections, and possible pregnancy. Don’t take a chance – use a condom or a dental dam, and know who you’re having sex with. No matter what age you are, if you’re having sex, you’re worth having safe sex.

Waiting

Of course for the younger generation, abstinence is ideal, but it doesn’t always happen that way. Teenagers and pre-teens are having sex and becoming sexual at an earlier age every year it seems like it. Middle schoolers are even beginning to have sex, and some late elementary school age children are starting to show signs of being interested in sex! Of course you want to wait as long as you possibly can. Even if you decide to wait until you’re eighteen, or until you’re married, it is still smart to be honestly and comprehensively educated about sex, about your options and about the consequences of sex. You always want to be armed with information before you make a decision.

A Good Age To Have Sex

Levels of maturity differ from person to person and morals and beliefs differ from family to family. Respect your moral beliefs, and respect your maturity. Women are often more mature than men, and may be ready for sex before men are. Teenagers, however, may not be ready for the consequences of having sex period and that is definitely something to take into consideration. It is your choice though to have sex, no matter what age you are. Once you’ve educated yourself about sex and know how to be safe and what the consequences (emotional and physical) of sex are, you’ll have a better idea if you’re ready or not. If you’re ready, make it special and make it safe. If you’re not, wait.

If you do, however, decide to have sex for the first time, don’t think there’s no going back. Just because you have sex once, does not mean that you have to continue if you don’t want to! You may not be a physical virgin again, but you can decide each and every time whether you want to have sex or not. If you have sex and regret it, don’t do it again. It’s always your choice.

3 Ways To Give Her MORE Orgasms With A Smaller Penis (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 17:15:28 +0000

If you are worried that your penis is too small to give your girl an adequate orgasm, you’re not alone. Most guys are worried about their penis size, particularly that it’s not big enough. Even if your penis size is completely normal, you may still be worried that it’s not big enough to give your woman the kind of orgasms she wants. Going with the assumption that you feel you have a small penis, here are three pretty much foolproof tips to give your girlfriend or wife better orgasms – regardless of your size.

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Tip #1 – True Masculine Dominance

Even if you feel you have a small penis, having true masculine dominance will give you more clout in the bedroom. Women are inherently built to be submissive when it comes to sex (although playing with role reversal can be fun too) and when you play to that side of her nature, you can give her the impression that you are a true, dominant man. Believe it or not, this makes a huge difference in the bedroom! You can use this dominance to work around penis size to get your girl turned on mentally as well as physically. Having true masculine dominance, however, is not about being a jerk or being rude. It’s simply about taking your place as the alpha male and letting your partner get back to her instincts.

Tip #2 – Stimulate Her G-Spot

Before stimulating her G-Spot, go down on your partner a little, give her a bit of dirty talk and get her nice and wet. You want her to be very turned on before you penetrate her, so that her G-Spot will be easier to find and easier to stimulate. To compensate for what you feel may be a small penis size, you can thrust at an upward angle to access the G-Spot and give her powerful orgasms regardless of penis size. Use the angle to your advantage, and try stimulating her clitoris at the same time, for powerful blended orgasms. Practice makes perfect and if you get skilled at G-Spot sex, your girl really isn’t going to care much about the size of your penis at all.

Tip #3 – Have Bulletproof Sexual Confidence

Be comfortable with who you are, and be comfortable with yourself sexually. Even if you feel that your penis is on the smaller size of normal, if you are comfortable and confident with your sexual skills, it will show through in the bedroom. So how do you get bulletproof sexual confidence? Hone your skills. Research, study and watch videos. Take the time to learn how to truly please a woman, with more than just your penis. Your research will pay off, and you’ll know you have your sexual skills down pat. That will, in turn, make you more confident that you know what you’re doing in the bedroom, and you know how to please a woman. Nothing turns a woman off faster than a newbie who is fumbling around down there, not knowing which way is up, regardless of how huge and mighty his penis may be. Get confident with yourself, get comfortable with yourself. Be dominant, and use techniques that work with your penis size and not against it. You’ll be able to give your woman more orgasms than you ever thought possible.<

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Teens And Porn – What Are The Hidden Dangers? (Video)

Paul Carlson — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 19:25:30 +0000

Almost all teens watch porn, no matter how hard you try to hide it from them. A simple Google search for “boobs” can pull up a multitude of things, and the Internet makes it incredibly easy to access all kinds of porn. Teens spend more time on the Internet than just about anybody, so naturally they’re exposed. Should you worry about it? What are the hidden dangers of teens watching porn?

Lots of people watch porn, but are there any hidden dangers to watching porn? Especially for teens? Visit our YouTube site and leave a comment – tell us what you think about teens watching porn!

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Pornography Changes Your Perceptions

While teens masturbating is completely normal, you may be curious as to whether watching porn is a concern for teens or not. While men, and young boys of course, are visual creatures and may need visual stimulation to complete the masturbation experience, is porn a good way for them to do so? Not necessarily, and not just for teenagers. Many types of pornography give only a brief view of what sex is like, and often caters towards certain fetishes for rough sex, voyeuristic sex and more. Porn is like a snapshot of what sex and relationships are really like, and the “snapshot” is usually blurred, poor quality or grainy. It’s definitely not a good representation of what the real thing is like.

Pornography can skew a person’s perception of what sex is really like and what the human body is really like. This is especially true for teens, who are just beginning to develop their perceptions, however, it is true for anyone. Porn is not an accurate representation of any of these things, and teenagers especially don’t know how to tell the difference between what is represented in pornography and what is true in real life.

The Perception Of The Human Body

The biggest perception that can be skewed by porn is what people are supposed to look like. Teenage boys in particular can grow up watching porn and begin to believe that all women are supposed to look like porn stars and there is something wrong with those who don’t. If you support your teen or even your grown husband or boyfriend using a visual aid to help with masturbation, look for pornography or magazines with more realistic representations of the female body.

Maturity Is A Factor

So should your teenager watch porn? The likely consensus is no – however, maturity plays a factor in whether your teen should have access to pornography or not. It also depends on your religious preferences. Of course, if your religion dictates that pornography is unacceptable in all forms, you should certainly do your best to keep pornography out of your home at all levels. However, if you have a mature teen and access to realistic images and videos, pornography may actually benefit your teen, or even your grown husband or boyfriend. In fact, realistic pornography may even benefit teen girls and grown women as well. Some theories suggest that teens with access to pornography and who are comfortable with masturbation may choose to wait longer to have sex. Ultimately, it’s up to you and your teen, or you and your partner as to whether you allow pornography into your lives and how to keep the dangers of it at a minimum.

Female Orgasm Tip #4 – Patience And Persistence (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 00:59:36 +0000

When it comes to giving a woman a great orgasm, one of the greatest tips you can employ is actually not a “technique” at all – it’s more of an overall attitude. During sex, it’s important to embody both patience and persistence to give your girl the orgasm the really wants – and it’s just as important for the girls to embody these qualities as well! Read on to find out why!

There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman.” While a bit cheesy, this quote really does say it all. Watch this video to find out why a little patience and persistence can go a really long way!

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Warming Up The Oven

You might have heard a woman’s sex drive compared to an oven before, but for a very important reason. Women are exactly like ovens in the bedroom – they definitely require to preheating, or being warmed up first. This is where you’ll be tested for the first time on patience and persistence! If you’re going down on your partner, or massaging her vagina and clitoris, she’s not going to get turned on within two secons of you putting your mouth or hands down there.

You need to be patient, and allow her time to get used to the feelings you’re creating for her and warm up to them. Women can practically smell impatience, and it will turn her off immediately, making your job just that much harder, if not impossible. So exercise patience! You’ll also want to exercise persistence – it may take a few minutes to either bring her to orgasm or even to just get her reasonably turned on, so it’s important to be persistent with the maneuvers you’re making. Of course, if something’s not working, find another technique to use, but once you hit the right spot with the right technique, keep going and keep going!

Ladies Need Practice Too

Of course, practice makes perfect. Guys, you can practice your patience and persistence in the bedroom with your partner anytime you’re feeling frisky to really get yourself under control so you can give your partner the best pleasure possible. But it’s not all up to you! It’s important that women also use patience and persistence when you’re “warming up their oven.”

First of all, a woman needs to be patient with herself. She is not expected to have an orgasm in thirty seconds! Be patient and quit focusing on trying to be turned on or trying to have an orgasm. Simply be patient and let the feelings come to you. Women also need to be persistent – if something doesn’t feel right or could feel better, don’t throw up your hands in frustration and suggest a quickie instead. Be persistent in communicating with your partner what you like and what you don’t like, so he can better satisfy you.

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Have Better Sex In One Easy Step (Video)

Melody Brooke — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 13:00:51 +0000

If you’re looking to improve your sex life, you’re not the only one. Lots of married and unmarried couples of all cultures, religions and orientations want to improve their sex lives with their partner. There’s so much information on the Internet now, that it can be hard to find your way around sex tips, sex advice and what you should do if you want to have better sex with your partner. But we have it all right here – how to have better sex in just one easy step!

We all want better sex – right? Watch this video to discover the biggest problem that almost all couples have in their sex lives – and then learn how to fix it! Visit www.ThisIsGreatSex.com for more information on how to have better sex with your partner!

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Talking To Your Partner About Sex

It sounds simple enough – have better sex by talking to your partner about what you like and don’t like in bed. Also, listen to your partner when they talk to you about what they do and don’t like in bed. Sounds easy, right? Not hardly! It’s simple, yes. But easy? Of course not. Why is it so hard to talk to our partners about sex? When we want to let them know we’d rather them go a little to the left, or let them know what they’re doing feels fantastic, we clam up and don’t say anything! Our partners (and ourselves on the flip side of the coin) have no idea if what they’re doing feels good or not, and we’re pretty much in the dark. But talking to your partner about sex is one of the most important ways to make sex better for both you and your partner!

Why You’re Afraid

Many people are afraid to talk to their partners about sex because they’re afraid of rejection. If they communicate to their partners what they want in bed, such as a fantasy acted out or trying out a new position, they’re afraid they’ll be judged or rejected by their partners. Out of self protection and self preservation of our own feelings, we subconciously choose not to share with our partners what we really want in bed, because we’re afraid they’ll judge us and reject us for it.

Another reason you might be afraid to let your partner let you know what they want in bed is that you’ll be expected to perform. What if you don’t do it right? What if they want you to do something you’re uncomfortable with? You run the risk, again, of being judged and rejected. So how do you get past this block of fear so you can finally communicate with your partner about sex and start to have better sex right away?

Do Unto Others What Others Should Do Unto You

First, stop worrying so much about yourself. Focus more on your partner, and let the rest come. Give your partner the 100% judge and rejection free freedom to talk to you about sex. Let them know that they are completely free to say what they would like to say to you about sex, and make sure they know that if they give you any feedback that it is completely welcome. Encourage your partner to talk to you about sex, listen and don’t be critical when they do. Let your partner know that it is ok to talk to you about sex. Soon, your partner will allow you to be free to talk to them about sex, and you will soon have fluid, back and forth communication about sex that will make sex fun and fulfilling for both of you.

Communicating In The Moment

Communicating “in the moment” is difficult – how do you let your partner know that something they are doing feels great, or doesn’t feel very good at all? The answer to this question is quite simple – if your partner is doing something that feels fantastic, be verbal! Make noises, show pleasure with your body and vocally as well. If your partner isn’t really revving you up at all, you don’t have to do or say anything! When they change to something that is working for you, make sure they know it! Also, if you fake an orgasm, you’re only hurting yourself. Your partner will assume that what gave you the “orgasm” will work the next time and the next time, and the only thing you’ve done by faking an orgasm is teach your partner how not to please you.

When Should You Talk To Your Kids About Sex? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 17:00:38 +0000

Sex ed is a hot topic these days, with teens making pacts to get pregnant and STD’s on the rise. Kids obviously need sex ed – but are they getting it? Who is responsible for teaching kids about sex, and when and how should it be done? Are schools responsible for sex ed? Are books or the Internet responsible, or how about movies, music and TV? No - you, as a parent, are solely responsible for your child’s sexual education. So when should you talk to your kids about sex?

What is the right age to tell your kids about sex? 8? 10? 15? 18? Watch this video to hear what we think about talking to your kids about sex. Visit our YouTube Page to comment and share what you believe is the right age. We also want to hear about your funny ’situations’ – what’s the most awkward question your kids have asked you about sex? When did they ask it? How did they ask it? How did you react to the question?

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Why We Don’t Want To Talk To Our Kids About Sex

We don’t want to talk to our kids about sex because it makes us uncomfortable. Maybe our parents didn’t talk to us about sex, or we’re embarassed about sex. Heck, most of us can’t even talk to our partners about sex, let alone talk to our kids! But we’re adults – we’re supposed to have the answers. That’s what parenthood is all about. If you don’t know the answers, go find them and live up to the responsibility of being a parent. Maybe it makes you uncomfortable to talk to your child about sex, but how uncomfortable are you going to be when your twelve year old daughter comes home pregnant? Or your teenage son has caught a nasty case of Chlamydia or worse – HIV? That’s a pretty uncomfortable situation and you will then, of course, have to talk to them about sex and why they’re pregnant or infected with a sexually transmitted disease. Why wait until it is too late?

The Right Time Is Now

Okay, we don’t mean “now” as in right this second, especially if your kid is still in diapers. We mean “now” as in talking to your kids about sex when they ask about it. If they don’t ask you about it, it means they’re getting their information from somewhere else, because they will ask. So if they ask you about sex, take the opportunity to answer their questions in an age appropriate manner and be grateful they’re not asking their teenage friends or worse, relying on movies and television to show them how it’s done.

There are three keys that you need to know when taking it upon yourself to discuss sex with your child – first, wait until they ask, but let them know beforehand that it’s okay to ask and make them feel comfortable and safe when asking about sex. Second, answer their questions in an age appropriate way. If your child is eight and asking about sex, you can explain to them simply that it is how children are made. Third, answer your child’s question and only your child’s question. Just because they asked a question about sex doesn’t mean you have to launch into an entire birds-and-the-bees lecture. Often, children will be satsified that their question was answered and go on about their business. They’ll ask more and want to know more along the way – so let them lead.

Stop Making Up Fairytales

You’ve known for a long time that children aren’t delivered by the stork, and that hospitals don’t deliver babies as a package. You’ve known how babies are born, did it yourself even, and have known for quite some time how sex really works. So why make up a story to tell to your children for the time being, only to have to tell them it was a lie later? Don’t tell your kids that babies come from the stork, or any other silly explanation about sex so you can escape the sex talk until a later date. It’s the 20th century people. Grow up!

Lead By Example

You want your kids to grow up and have loving, healthy relationships in which they can have smart, safe sex right? You want them to never have to deal with a sexually transmitted disease or infection, and you want them to have a baby when they are ready. You want them to love and be loved by their partner for who they are, right? So show them what a loving, healthy relationship is.