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The Question
I’ve recently had feelings for this girl and it turns out she’s had feelings for me as well.
We’ve been friends with each other for years but there’s always been something more there.
She told me that she had liked me more than a friend in the past and she does presently, and it’s the same story with me.
A few days ago we kissed for the first time after we had been out with a group of friends but were alone at the time. From that point on I considered us to be "official" and that’s also what she said to me after the kiss.
However, just two days later she sent me a text message saying "I can’t do this, I just can’t right now."
She has been messed around by boyfriends in the past and treated particularly badly by her previous boyfriend. I’m afraid this has something to do with it.
I really want to make it happen with this girl. Any ideas?????
So what would you do in this situation?
Force the issue and tell her to get over it or maybe sit back and wait for her indefinitely?
Here’s what I would do in the same situation.
The Answer
It sounds like she’s a little "gun shy" and who can blame her. Give her time and show her that you’re not like her previous boyfriends. She may just be really nervous about crossing the "dating" line and taking the risk of losing you as a friend.
Talk to her.
Tell her openly and honestly how you feel without putting any pressure on her. Let her know that you’re there for her regardless of whether or not she’s your girlfriend or just your friend. Whether your relationship with her is labeled as "romantic" or not, it sounds like you have a good relationship, one worth keeping. Too many people let their hormones drive their intellect and ruin a perfectly good relationship - don’t be one of those.
If she just wants to keep you as a friend, it doesn’t mean that she’s rejecting you as a person. It simply means that she’s not ready for a romantic relationship and doesn’t want to date you right now. So many men get angry over this situation because they take it personally, but most likely it has nothing to do with you - she’s already told you that she’s attracted to you.
Ask yourself why you want to take the relationship to the next level.
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Hi!
I was dating this girl for a Month until I broke up with her as I had some issues at home to deal with and I could not give her the time she needed. We got back together after 2 weeks were by I broke up with her again for the same issue but I did not tell her I had family problems. Anyway for two months she was calling me asking me out I would deny her all the time, but not because I did not want , I loved her very much I did not want to hurt I had to clear things at home first. I always would speak to her sometimes see her.
Anyway when I decided to go back to her , she had already started seeing another man. I told her the truth how wanted her back and why I broke up with her.. She told me she does not love this guy she has being seeing for 4 weeks but she cares for him..
She said to me that she can not come back to me because she can trust me.
But she said she still cares for me and wants to still continue seeing me as friends behind her boyfriends back, as he does not want her to go near me, let alon talk to me. I am abit confused. Why would she risk her relationship now just to be friend and see me?
I have decided to be her friend and see her! I love her very much and want her back. What do you think is going on in her mind? I know she loved me very much..
She is probably (or maybe) thinking the same that you do and is thinking on working it out again. But on the other hand she may only want to be friends again. Either way you sould definetly see here again.