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Originally Posted by Garnet Anne
Alright I've been in this boat myself, still at 18 have some issues with it, guys at this age are (for the most part) amazingly immature. But no guy in his 20's-30's should be interested in a girl who is 14.
As someone who was/is considered "mature for her age" I know there are all those "But I'm not like other girls my age" things, point blank: It is illegal for a reason.
You will have plenty of time to date those guys when you're an adult, but remember no matter how grown up you think you are right now, the law says differently. And it says differently for a good reason: Your protection.
It isn't just a risk to the underage person to be getting together with these guys, its a risk to the guys as well. Now I know, guys who are interested in girls that young aren't really ones you want to be protecting but just because the minor is interested doesn't mean the older person is and if that is the case they may get in a lot of trouble for something they didn't even do.
You don't have to date anyone, if you don't like guys your age don't date them, but don't rush to grow up and date the older men too soon either.
Thats my advice.
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In addition to the safety and emotional considerations already listed, let me say that being involved with you could subject them to legal prosecution. Many states don't require actual intercourse for the older party to be charged with the local equivalent of statutory rape. At the least, it would be fairly easy for them to be charged with Contributing to the Delinquency of a Minor if they have you out past curfew or do anything in violation of your parents wishes.
If your parents know you are seeing someone that much older, they could even be charged with failure to protect you. If you are sexually active with an adult, your parents could even be charged with abuse if they know about it and don't stop it. An aggressive district attorney could probably prosecute everyone involved. you really don't want this drug through the papers.
For now, you need to stick to someone near your own age. You need to check the laws of your state and see what the age of consent is. Most states specify an age difference that is required for consensual sexual activity to be statutory rape. (it wouldn't be statutory rape for an seventeen year old to have sexual relations with a 19 year old.) However, an aggressive prosecuting attorney could make the case for Contributing to the Delinquency of a Minor up until you're 18, if you don't have your parents permission.