[Ray]

My wife recently asked me if I wanted to try swinging. She wants to have sex with another man and I can have another woman. At first I was turned on and said yes thinking it was just bedroom talk. She is serious about finding other partners and says it is only sex and she loves me. I realized that I couldn't handle the thought of another man pounding my wife so I called the deal off. She agreed but I know she still wants another man. Now I am scared that she will find another behind my back instead of being open about it and I am considering trying out swinging just so I won't be left out. I am willing to try sex with another couple but she wants it to be one on one seperately. How can I fel secure about my relationship and not lose my wife of 22 years.