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I love my wife just as much today as I did the day I married her and have made a habit of telling her I love her everyday, but...

...recently the spark in our marriage has all but died out, we'll be lucky to have sex once every two weeks and even then its rushed, and I don't want it to be. We have a two year old son and he takes up pretty much all of our spare time, I love him madly and wouldn't have him any other way.

I work rotating shifts on a sporadic roster and my wife works a straight 9 - 5 but with travel she's out of the house 11 hours a day and by the time our boy is asleep she's just plain too tired to do anything else but sleep. When we do have the day off together we make plans to have sex when our boy has his midday nap but it's always rushed (no foreplay, she doesn't even take her shirt and bra off) so she can do some cooking or house work afterwards. She'll tell me that "we can do it again tonight" but she always falls asleep and I don't want to wake her. I've bought her some women's multi-vitamins to try and boos her energy but after a few days she forgets to take them (not that they made much of a difference anyway). My wife needs to concentrate on what we're doing. How can I get her mind to stop wandering while we're having sex?

Our hormones are well and truly out of sync and my sex drive has fallen greatly. On rare occasions we'll have a few hours to ourselves with nothing else that needs to be done but, she doesn't seem to be interested in foreplay, I'll ask her if she wants me to go down on her but the answer is usually "no". She's even less interested in giving me oral sex and when she does, it's 60secs and she (not me) is done, she'll go to rinse her mouth with mouthwash like my penis is covered in germs (but I'll be fresh out of a shower) then we'll have rushed sex. How do I get my wife more interested in oral sex and foreplay?

I love performing oral sex on my wife, getting her off gets me off but, (here's a big problem) she doesn't shave her pubic hair, and while performing oral sex is a turn on getting a hair stuck in your teeth is a turn off. I ask her repeatedly but the answer is always "no". How can I get her to start shaving down there?

It just doesn't seem like my wife is interested in sex anymore, she's either; too tired, too busy etc. Sex just isn't a priority for her. How can I get her more interested in having sex?

I NEED HELP!!!