Suzie: I'm not sure you have anything to feel guilty about. Have you created the expectation in the first man that you are dating him exclusively? If not, there's no reason you can't date as many people as you wish. If he has formed the impression that you and he are exclusive, then you need to let him know. You don't need to tell him about guy 2 specifically. That's not really his business. You do need to make sure he's not under the impression that you and he are dating exclusively. That's only fair. As long as he knows that, you're not under any obligation to share any more details.
I think you're making a good decision to insist on dating more than one person. Make sure you're not just settling for the first man who comes along.
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