I'm in my 40's also, so maybe I can give you some ideas on things to be aware of. Generally, by this stage in life we know what we want; which is a good thing. Often, in the 40's people have a drop in energy and especially sexual desire, so that may be an issue. If he has teenage kids, obviously that will be a consideration. I gather he's financially stable, so that doesn't appear to be a problem.
One issue that comes up when middle-aged people date much younger people is that we often have different tastes. We don't go places and just "hang." A lot of things that younger people enjoy, we've "been there done that, got the t-shirt." For example, if I stay out very late it's harder for me to recover.
The advantages are that people of our age are normally financially and professionally stable. Chances are his energy level are going to be lower, however. The long-distance relationship will also be a problem unless the two of you are considering taking the relationship further and having a common residence.
One thing to consider, is you don't really know what he does when he's in New York. There may be another boyfriend, or whatever. Obviously, I don't know. It's just always a possibility when someone is doing long-distance commuting. In the final analysis, you're both adults and able to decide for yourselves if this is what you want.
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