[K. in Cleveland]

Do you want to get back with him? Is it worth it if it wasn't good to begin with?

Many times people find themselves in an "on again/off again" relationship. This is a merry-go-round of misery, pain, fighting, and some fun... but usually it only leads to more upset and emotional distress when we break up and get back together with a poorly matched mate.

If it didn't work well the first time, what has changed to make another shot at it better? Has he had a major revelation or epiphany and realized the errors of his ways and is making a commitment to be a more understanding, caring, patient and loving person... then it's probably going to end up with more broken glass and cheating. If this is the case, do yourself the favor and cut the tie with him... you don't need it. Give yourself some time off from dating for awhile. Let yourself figure out what you really want and what you enjoy. After a couple months (2 or 3 minimum) you can begin to look for a date again... until then let yourself recover from the bad relationship and the good one that didn't work out.