The problem with online dating is that you know about people EXACTLY what they want you to know. I have never met anyone online, but I'm a counselor and I work with people who have been through that situation. If you know someone personally, you at least know a little bit about them. I've known people who hooked up with some very dangerous characters without knowing it. The internet is ultimately anonymous. It's fairly easy to tell people what they want to hear and get them interested, especially if someone has ulterior motives. I know the old saying about not judging a book by it's cover; but in reality you can glean quite a bit of information from observing someone casually, especially their demeanor. I'm sure online dating works sometimes. I think it fails more times than it works. Once, I saw a commercial for eHarmony where they were bragging about how many people had signed up and later how many marriages has been made through eHarmony. My statistics brain kicked in and I did the division. Fewer than 1/2 of one percent of the people who signed up with eharmony have married through that medium. I think time is better spent in making your life better so that you can attract the person you ultimately hope to be with.
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