Are you happy?
I just have one question...
Are you happy?
If the answer is yes, then by all means continue down the path you're on.
I feel however that the answer is no.
When you are in a situation where you feel unhappy, you have two options. Accept it or change it.
In this situation, you can accept the fact that this man is happy with things just the way they are and that you wish there could be more and that's just how it is.
Or
You can change the situation. But before you make any changes, you need to answer some questions for yourself.
Why are you having this affair? This about you - do not blame your husband or anyone else for your feelings. When you answer this question, make it about your feelings. "I'm having this affair because I feel ________.
Most people have affairs because they are looking for someone, another person, to make them happy. What you have to realize is that happiness comes from within you. Once you've identified why you're having this affair - sex, loneliness, emotional connection, boredom, whatever - then you need to find ways to fill that void yourself.
If you truly decide that you do not want to be with you husband, then leave. If you want to be with your husband but there are some problems that need to be resolved for you to stay, then work on those problems with him. GO to counseling if you need to. Try to take him with you, but if he won't go, then go yourself.
Simply put, you've got to find the happiness within yourself. This other man cannot do that for you. Only then can you have a happy relationship with another person.
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