To be or not to be?
Hi Ray...
You are in a tough situation, but it's good that you are parting ways on good terms. Even if the relationship didn't work out, you seem to have the makings of a really great long term friendship.
I do feel that it's time to move on and forget any thoughts of continuing the romantic relationship at this time. I would even take some time away - and you already know this - to give yourself time to heal. It's really hard to get over a heart break when the source of your heart break is sending emails every day.
You will not likely ever forget or get over her and here's the catch... That's OK. It's OK to keep loving her. For some reason people in our society think that when you break up with someone, you have to hate them. This actually a poor attempt to make our egos feel better and justify why the other person no longer wants to be with us.
But relationships have many dynamics and facets. If one or two of those things don't line up, then the relationship may break up or change forms, but it doesn't suddenly make the other person bad or evil.
On the jealousy thing at the end, I predict that you were feeling it slipping away and were trying to hold on tighter. We tend to know things are happening sooner in our heart than our mind is willing to accept. That's why I always tell people to listen to their hearts...
It also sounds like she's a little confused at the moment... She know you had a good thing and the new guys that she's dating may not be fulfilling her emotional needs as well as your relationship was. But until she figures out what she wants, I would stay clear because this is a recipe for a serious roller coaster relationship ride.
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