Could really put a damper on your friendship IF any of the three of you are not careful.
But, if everyone is careful this could work out very well. Or somewhere in between.
Approaching Rick may seem easier. But here is where that could contribute to the negative side. We already know through joking around with this that Rick may be into the idea. He could talk to Abbie for you and see if she might be in to this. Easier, but a little more risky.
I think the best approach would be to go to Abbie yourself. Tell her you feel more comfortable to do this with people you both know and trust. If Abbie does turn out to not want to, or has a bit of a jealous streak at least she would know that you didn't make a move on Rick without her knowledge. She'll also know you will have approached her first with the actual and serious proposition. And that you understand that they are together where if she says no, no further moves will be made.
What Rick doesn't know won't hurt him at this point. It could hurt him indirectly if you went to him first and Abbie refused. She may then start to question her and Rick's relationship because of you. It can most likely either end your friendship or their relationship badly. Possibly both. This gives all of you an out if Abbie is uncomfortable with the idea.
She may not understand quite as well if Rick alone approached her on the subject. If it goes well, then sit down with the both of them and talk it over. If it doesn't go well, never bring it up again.
Through some fairly extensive swinging, I've learned that the women very much rule the kingdom. At this point it'll be Abbie's decision to continue or stop and will always remain so. Don't bring it up with Rick any more (even jokingly) until you have talked to Abbie.
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