You just might be, as Beagle said, in the right position. One statement you made rang a big bell with me. The "He's stuck in the thought that it's all just shut up and cum" part. Use it to your advantage. Resist him during sex and make him do it. Play with it, it's what scenes are all about.
Sub from the top. Most subs actually do challenge their Dom to go further by resisting the urge to just give in to whatever smaller challenges the Dom gives them. The subs are actually the ones pushing their own limits, yet the Dom is learning how far he can go or how he has to manipulate the scene at the same time. Funny thing is, the Dom may not even know what's happening til afterwards.
Let him know that doing more in the BDSM realm will/can make you come more. Or more intensely, or both.
It's hard to say whether his ego can take it or not. We have fragile ones as men. But counter that with the fact that he already drives you crazy, just why can't it be more?
You know this, it seems he doesn't. He may be hesitant to become more involved because of the thought he could hurt you if he isn't careful. He may also not know your full limits when it comes to what he can or can't do. Discuss that you want to go farther and that you trust him in keeping it to the right level. Subtle hints don't often work in this situation. Open and frank conversation are the only way accomplish that.
Could be that he's just somewhat lazy too. Not every woman can have an orgasm every time, so if you can and he knows it, he might just think that's all he has to do and not expand on it. A TON of realtionships die in just this way. I think she's happy so why should I do more? Fact of life, we all want more. Snap him out of it. He'll either do this or he won't. Start slow, challenge him. Resist, sub from the Top. See where he takes it from there.
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