Just like guns, teach them young and there will be more respect for them. Porn only has an allure to teenagers because it is taboo and they are interested which is normal. I would be more concerned about a teenager that was not interested.
We need serious education, not only about sex but about sensuality, love, respect and the realities of the life on Earth. If a teen understands it and is taught to respect it then the problems will be reduced.
In the Lifestyle we are always talking about communication being important. What is not discussed enough is that communication is important in all relationships. Poly, swinging, gay, straight, monogamy, between friends, between parents and children etc. Every relationship that one has is based on communication.
If we open our hearts and minds then we will have better relationships in all directions of our life. A wise man once said "love is all we need." That is not true. We don't need love. Love will come and go, hopefully it comes more often than it goes. I will take respect at every turn though.
A teen looking at porn is actually asking a question that needs to be addressed. He is obviously not comfortable asking his parents. This is a great opportunity to develop a stronger relationship. All problems and conflict offer an opportunity. We just need to be strong and stable enough to take advantage of the opportunity.
When one raises a child or a teenager we hope that he/she will one day become a decent and respectful citizen who will treat others as they should be treated. They learn how from their parents (the primary socializers). You have a hard but rewarding task ahead of you. Talk to your kid about it. He will be shy and try to avoid it. Create an environment that he can talk to you. He just might.
BTW, you have another psych guy running around on this forum consider this free advice but not a session.
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