It really depends on the variables.
Telling and not telling both have their merits but its really dependent on the situation.
There are always times that cheating may be a good thing, for yourself, & for your partner.
You may need to clear your mind about something, test someone else.
For example...
If you have been married to your partner for 10 years, but before you were married, in the first year of your relationship you "tested someone else out", but you haven't done it again, & you are both really happy then its probably best not to tell. You'll only cause heartbreak and sadness, it might be ok, but your partner would be better off not knowing.
Honesty in this case would be a crazy idea!
Infact if you ever cheat and your partner knows nothing then its best to not tell(just live with your regret), but if they suspect something and bad feelings, jealousy and paranoia run riot in your relationship, honesty is definitely the best policy.
I suppose if I had to pick an option on a survey on a thread and I had to abide by it my whole life & it would be good advice in all situations (that I can imagine).
"don't mess with what is not broken".
seems to work.
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