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futureqatif, don't worry its not that weird.

I can relate to you completely, I used to go to an all boys school.
All my friends were males, everybody I knew was male, and I hadn't talked to a girl or had any contact with them for years. Infact the only contact I had with girls was in primary school and that was at the age of "4-10 years old" where "all girls have cooties" needless to say, I had no experience getting along with women, heck back then I stuttered, spluttered, lost my voice, wretched & everything whenever I got spoke to by one of my friends girlfriends, I was very shy, its pretty normal.


1) Where to start,

Go out to the pubs & the clubs with your male friends, if none of your friends go out to these places get some more friends. The best places to meet new friends is most likely your place of work, you can go out with your work colleagues & before you know it you are friends!

The reason pubs & clubs are good is people talk to complete strangers in these places, & women talk to complete strangers in these places, if your friends "pick up" women here, then ask them what they are doing, what they say, and be open with them, you want to know so you can go "pick up some chicks" so to speak. You'll find most guys will be really nice accommodating & helpful, don't worry they wont laugh or anything like that.

2)Self-esteem.

Self-esteem is something that you will gain via every success & every failure, no matter how small those successes are or how large the failures are. If every week you can look back at yourself & think "I am better at this & this & this, than I was last week" then your well on your way to improving. For getting women, if every week if you can ask yourself "can I talk to women slightly better than I could last week? or did I learn something I shouldn't do?" and you can answer yes, then thats good, keep doing it.

If you can only answer NO, then you need to promise yourself to try harder next week, if you don't try harder you need to honestly blame yourself & not excuse yourself (make excuses). If you try to improve every week you'll improve.

3)Getting a woman for a relationship (or a one night stand).

Now I put these together because these are the same, you need both to have either.

Bluntly putting it, you need to consider that you need to be opening the door to a new relationship to have a one-night-stand & you also have to close the door to end that relationship.

now the girls that you meet out with your friends, these are not girls you want for your life partner, these are girls that you want to make your friends. You want to get to the point that you have a couple of female friends you can call and say "hey wanna go out shopping, grab a beer, or go to the cinema" these are the most important friends and you will become a excellent communicator to women by conversing with these women .

4)finding your life partner,

After you have lots of friends, especially female friends, your doors are wide open for introductions to girls looking for their "life partner". Also you'll be meeting loads more people & then when you feel like it, and you are confident and you meet someone new, "put the moves on" (no not in the sleezy way, just show her your interested, you don't need to know how to do this now, & knowing would just hinder you, wait till you learn "in the real world").

Then after you have had a few women, you can pick the one that you would most like to spend the rest of your life with & see if it works-out.

4b) This is my no-fail way to get lots and lots and lots of friends.

*)every time you meet someone, make an effort to get their name, ask them to repeat it if you didn't get it the first time.

*)when they are not looking get your cell phone and make a quick note of their name & something about them so you can match the face in your head to the name.

^)when you get home write the names and descriptions into a diary.
^)every night before you go to sleep, study and learn everyone in your diary.

*)next time you see someone and you know their name, greet them, shake their hand, say their name, ask them how they are. They will be impressed because its almost guaranteed they will have forgotten your name.

Before you know it you'll be very popular and know lots of people.