Well Barbara, I think you're operating under a couple of misconceptions. So you know where I'm coming from, I'm an older woman who loves to date younger men so I do have a little experience here.
First of all, not all older men let themselves go. I know a couple of older guys who put the younger ones to shame! There's a guy in the town I live in who is in his mid 50s and is smokin'. That being said, I know a lot of younger guys who already look like they're about to give birth...to twins!
There are a lot of older guys out there who take care of themselves and look mighty fine, so if an older guy is what you're looking for, they are definitely out there. You don't have to date younger men.
Secondly, not all younger men are looking to bag a Cougar. Yes, those guys are out there but there are also a lot of younger guys who love older women and are attracted to them for many reasons other than just sex. Trust me, I've dated them and they are wonderful. Again, they're out there. It's just a matter of finding them.
All of that being said, there are a lot of free dating sites out there but the sad truth is that, a lot of times, you get what you pay for. A reputable pay site such as Match.com is reputable for a reason. But, if you're completely opposed to pay dating sites, you can try Plenty of Fish.
If you're having trouble finding men in your area, try expanding your search area some. Also, make sure your profile is written to try to attract the kind of men you're looking for. Be specific without coming off shallow and condescending.
Good luck!
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