BDSM = Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. There's a lot to do there.
The following is overly simplistic because the activities that fall under the heading of BDSM are vast. Basically B&D are role playing games involving a captor and captive, a master and a sex slave, or an authority figure ( nobleman, boss,teacher etc) and a subordinate( servant, serf, employee, student, etc.). The bondage can be restraints ( chains, cuffs, ropes or other) or bondage can be a slavery game. If you look up bondage in a decent dictionary ( I use OED) the first definition is usually slavery. Naughty subordinates often need discipline. This can be a stern reprimand, being made to stand in the corner, perform a task, learn to serve the authority figure in certain way (preferably something sexual) or it can be corporal discipline in the form of, spanking, caning, paddling, whipping or other "torture."
S&M gets right down to pain play. It can be the same spanking, caning , whipping and such described above or it can mean dripping melted wax on someone ( I like to show my partner a lit candle, blindfold her, allow her to feel the heat of the candle near her then drip ice water on her) placing fresh ginger inside body cavities, live piercings, or something else "painful". S&M enthusiasts are able to eroticize the inflicting of or subjection to pain. As seen with the ice water example it doesn't have to be exactly painful. Stroking someone's entire body with a feather is also considered S&M by some. S&Mers also use role play and B&Ders often leave out the role play and get straight to the tying, chaining, punishing or what have you. There are certain times where it is difficult to say this is S&M and that is B&D as they overlap quite a bit.
Well these are just some of the things that kinksters are into. If you decide to try anything other than basic spanking I suggest you educate yourself on safety measures and techniques. Try to find a couple of books. Some of the most respected authors on basic BDSM are Jack Rinella, Jay Wiseman and Gloria Brame. there are others, but these will set you on the right path. Wiseman's S&M 101 is a best seller.
Whatever you end up doing always practice RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) meaning that everyone involved is aware of the dangers involved in this sort of wild sex, takes measures to reduce the risks and most importantly is participating in said activities of his or her own free will.
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