WOW! Okay first off, I think if you had infidelity issues "ages ago" and you worked through them than GREAT. BUT be really sure you've worked through them, that everyone is on the same page and looking at things from the same perspective. Introducing someone else, even if it's just for one night, tends to complicate things. So long as you both are communicating (("GO COMMUNICATION!!!")) and trusting one another, I think it can be a good thing to share.
One thing that brings up a little bit of a concern is that he DOESN'T seem attracted to any of the women that you're looking at.
Okay you say you are pregnant, that means there is a HUGE rush of hormones, and I do think they affect our attractions to some degree. I also agree with Dan and Jennifer that people aren't "hetero-sexual" or "homo-sexual" or "bi-sexual" people are just sexual. I think ultimately if your feeling really sure of yourself, feeling really trusting of your partner, have really extensively talked it through including some really in depth discussion of what happens if you start or he starts having feelings for someone you include, then you should go for it. Perhaps and I'm just thinking of this now, he's not attracted to any of the others because "he can't keep up" with you even. I'll be curious if that's the case after the baby comes. Ultimately though if he's okay with it and you're okay with it, than a little experimentation isn't a bad thing. I AM curious though if he truly does just want to watch or at some point is he going to want or hope to join in. Something to discuss...
Hugs,
Rachael
|