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Originally Posted by Dan And Jennifer
For us, "honesty is the best policy"... but the only problem we had with the poll is that the underlying assumption is that you HAD an affair.
And of course there are other variables...
- you actually had an affair
- do you want to make up with your partner?
- is there a reason you're not with that person that you had the "affair" with - was it just a one-night-stand?
Lots of variables. IF you truly communicate and follow the honesty is best policy from the beginning I just don't think you'd get to the affair stage to begin with.
Dan
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OK, I'm sorry for the assumption that one has to have had an affair. I should have added "No, I would not cheat on my partner!" as an option. I let the television program railroad my thinking into only having cheated, not that some people do not cheat. I apologize.
I guess my opinion on this is it really does depend on the circumstances. As Saishuu says, if it was a long time ago and the relationship was not set in stone, why bother telling. However, if the relationship was good and cemented into exclusivity, and a partner cheated, that is a different story. But it also cans tem from so many issues. Maybe the wife wanted more and hubby refused a 3some or 4some... but at the same time as Dan says, if the relationship had good, open, honest communication to begin with the affair shouldn't have happened to begin with. I guess it depends on the situation and the person. I still think I'd be honest, because if he still wants me after I had cheated, then I know it's a relationship still worth being in.
Perhaps my next question should be, If your partner had an affiar, would you want to know?