[Lanna in Arizona]

I just read both of the responses, which brings up some interesting thoughts.
I could NOT deal with him being involved. That might sound SO unfair. For some reason it seems so non-threatening for a girl to be with a girl, but if I were with a guy (which totally not interested in at all, besides my hubby)...that would be a different story.
Like, If he were with a guy and I was watching. It's nowhere close to our desire, but just as an example. I wouldn't want the other dude, it would just be about seeing him be freaky and such.
He comments when a girl we are looking into is attractive, cute, gorgeous, or pretty. He just doesn't seem to really want to try and be with her, just me.
It does fit the cliche' fantasy for most guys, I would imagine. And, I would want him to be honest, if so. But, I can't imagine I would give any more thought to this little fantasy if I thought that's how it would turn out.
I feel like that's beyond my comfort level, to no return.
If we can agree on the terms...maybe it would be fun. But, if not...I don't want to risk losing what we've been able to repair. And I would kill the even slightest consideration of such a thing...if that were the case.

Thanks!