if you have any jealosy issues this is not the place to work them out,that would be like saying i am afraid of spiders so lets move to south america.you swing because you both want to,and you both want to equally.it takes tone of communication and planning and both partners have to agree that this is about choice so if you or your partner arent comfortable with a prospective bed mate (s)then its a no go,period.its natural to feel a tinge of concern of for example your husbands playmate is a drop dead georgeous perfect bodied woman .but if your husband is truly your partner in all things he would be open to discussing the issue.but the raw emotion of jealosy is a hard demon to tame,in fact it may be impossible.if you dont believe your mate is your best friend,if you dont look at their sexuality as something uniquely theirs and happily allow them to enjoy that pleasure without any feelings of jealosy then this is NOT something you should even test.if you are not 100 percent on board for this then do not attempt it,any marriage contract sho be equally acceptible to both parties or it will never work
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