you would be amazed how often people are in tune with you and you dont even notice....the fact hes tried means he very interested.....men really dont go looking to try something thats going to ruin the sex for the evening,so if he dabbled in bdsm its quite likely hes very into it.....but he may be afraid youll think hes to dominant,or that if he shows interest and you dont hell scare you into thinking he may force you,this is a very very difficult area to talk about,any fetish has a possiblity to make the person youre discussing it with think youre a freak because people usually dont understand the workings of sexual quirks,and if you try to explain why you like it youll lose every time,dont justify it,say this is what i like can you do this....i am very into bdsm i am a very submissive slave in the bedroom but never so outside,my husband played a bit with it,a smack here a throat fuck there,until i wrote him a letter once and told him how when i masterbated i was thinking of how he would choke me and throatfuck me at the same time and that i wanted him to do that more and harder .....well he changed that night,and i had to hide the whip marks from my family,but i was never in my life so sexually fulfilled......you see it turned out he was just as into it,but never thought he could really run with it .thank god i wrote that letter .you can craft such a note that will let him read and process in private,if he has it in him to be that man he will take action immediately.....isnt a minute of uncomfortableness going to be worth the sexual gratification youve been craving?
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