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Originally Posted by minimaterix
I heard sex with a condom is bad :S
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Minimaterix,
This whole idea that sex with a condom is somehow "bad" is a myth, plain and simple. Please, please don't buy into it.
I'm 30 years old and I can honestly tell you that the first few times I had sex one of the last things I could have possibly worried about was whether the sensation could have been enhanced ever so slightly by NOT wearing protection. My biggest concern was which condom was the safest!
Where this type of a rumor gets started, is usually one of those showoff, grandstanding, trash talking things that macho guys like to engage in sometimes to show off and pretend they have "more game" than their friends. Of course those who talk the loudest tend to have the most to cover up. lol
For a virgin, the first time will be very special, a experience that you'll enjoy just as much with or without a condom. Seriously, with all the new / foreign sensations, you're pretty unlikely to even know the difference.
Most guys will have sex so, so many times in their adult lives, that they will have plenty of time to try all kinds of variations. Leave the other variations for later - it's just not worth it to take that kind of risks especially your first time.
While later on you may eventually determine which you prefer (with or without), sex without a condom is very dangerous and really, really not worth the risk - think STDs and babies!
There is no such thing as absolutely security or protection, it's not possible. But there is a concept called a "multi layered defense". Condoms are x% effective. Birth control pills are x% effective (at preventing pregnancy anyway). Put them together as a layered defense and you're way safer than you were before. See what I mean?
But whatever you do, don't go at it with no protection because of what some guys said, please.
Here are two videos you may find helpful, check them out...
Unprotected Sex - Did He Pull Out Fast Enough?
Safe Sex: Can That Clear Fluid Really Get Me Pregnant?
Dan