[Beagle]

From a psychological perspective, there is nothing abnormal about that fantasy. Like you, women often feel they are the only one's having that fantasy. I don't remember the exact percentages, but it's fairly common; between 1/4 and 1/3 as I recall. It's really nothing to worry about. It's just a variation of the BDSM spectrum. Some women choose to act it out in a role-playing fashion, by having their partner enter their home or bedroom and surprise them. That requires the same safety precautions as any BDSM activity, complete with safety words and stop-signals. It also requires a very high level of trust from both partners. I replied to a post from a young man whose girlfriend wanted him to participate in just that fantasy. I wasn't sure how well he knew the young lady in question and advised him to be very sure it wasn't a setup of some form. Like I say, the key ingredients in any such fantasy are trust and communication.

Just to be thorough, there are fairly rate situations associated with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) wherein a rape victim compulsively puts herself in a position to be victimized. I've seen one case in a twenty-year career. I presume that's not what you're talking about, but I just wanted to be thorough. If that is the case, then that would require professional treatment.