Here's a tip you can use. It's called the "Sexual-Stimulus Response" trick.
During foreplay, before you start to stimulate him, simply put his hands where you want them to be, and do the motions that you like. Then...let go.
If you're playing with him at the same time and he stops, then you stop! And 'remind his hands' what to do. Once he gets started again, you can go back to rewarding him.
After a few times he'll get the idea.
And like Alice and Paul said, be direct in your communication. Tell him exactly what you want...but in a way that won't hurt his ego or make him defensive. Example, during foreplay, while he's stimulating you, tell him to do what you want, communicate the speed/pressure you like etc. Ultimate, you can even tell him to give you an orgasm.
Hope that helps!
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