[Mac]

It's not you brother, it's women. Can't live with em, can't live without them!

Seriously thought you're having issues that are all to common for many couples. The fact of the matter is, at least in my house, (depending on the type of woman you have) usually women like and enjoy it when a man initiates sex. Initiating it 100% of the time isn't that big of a deal trust me. As often as 4-5 times a week and of course we have our off times where a week can possibly go by without any intimacy. For the most part, women don't like clingy partners. Here's a big psychological hint of truth behind that. We all want what we cannot have.

Let that sink in for a second then think about it. Now I'm not suggesting that you play hard to get or even do any of those ridiculous mind games because to be blunt, that's reserved for high school kiddies. One thing that I've learned over my years is the way men and women communicate and keep score is very wild and different as we each have our own gender specific mind sets. Communications and interpretation of each other's actions can be huge, so can sex, and so is personality.

Men and Women keep score differently. A man gives big time points for big things, and typically a man is going to naturally think like his own gender set and think BIG. We buy our ladies big gifts like diamonds and gold jewelry, or take them to big time dates and dinners at fancy restaurants. We tend to believe this gets us outta the dog house in some occasions. But nothing could be further from the truth. See women think generally much different. They keep score like a woman and give points for individual things all being relevant to 1. Do the dishes for her, 1 point. Give her a back massage, 1 point. Buy her a diamond necklace, 1 point.

See the point? (no pun intended haha)

Now a man, who keeps score with his own gender mind set will give a woman HUGE points for something big such as she buys him a plasma T.V. or tickets to his favorite ballgame. Not only does the woman earn like 50 points but the man will always remember her for this and bring it up as he brags to his friends over and over again.

On the other hand a woman will not keep score the same way, the man buys her expensive jewelry and the following week thinking that's he's set for at least a month or two she complains "why dont' you ever buy me flowers anymore?" Man responds, "WHAT?! I just got you a gold necklace, like LAST WEEK!!!!"

See how these arguments start? We simply do not keep scores the same way as the other sex does. Understanding this mind set that the majority of men and women use to "keep score" will make for successful relationships.

The cold and distant feelings and the ever growing indifference towards you can probably be fixed very easily and the initiation of sex might or might not be the issue here. I know in my situation it's always 100% myself and expected that way to be the initiate. Sometimes the lines of communication break down without any sudden realization of it because it happens so gradually that when things "blow up" we're often left wondering wtf just happened right?

If you first and foremost try to understand some of the mind sets men and women have then play off those to your advantage I bet you will find some success down the line there. Play on the "we want what we can't have" a tad bit and see if this has any effect. Make yourself "appear" indifferent for a day and see what effect that has on her. Maybe she will be peaked by curiosity of your sudden drop of clingy-ness and needs.

There's a whole slew of things you can use to your advantage right now, just give a few tries at something totally different.

Rooting for you,
Mac