I happen to know a little bit about this myself being an advid gamer of MMORPG's
WoW isn't by far the most addicting game out there. I'm sure you've heard of everquest and now the latest one in the past few years such as eq2, vanguard or even some of the newer ones coming out. Frankly it doesn't matter what the vice is.. the fact is online gaming is a huge and addictive past time. I've personally spent days without sleep while logged in and playing these games. It's even caused a lot of strife in my own marriage.
So what's an old fart like me to do? I love gaming and I love my wife. I simply chose my wife. My wife ultimately chose me. She has "allowed" me to play my games however... I can't just play casually. It's far to addicting and I had to just quit. While I will always love playing online games and I'm sure there will be something that I will continue to play or pick up in the future the real struggle for myself is the fact that when I play these games I become so enthralled and detached that I could validly see my wifes irritation of my addiction.
I ignored my entire family and alienated my wife, the woman I love for my game. To be blunt I had feelings and addiction to my game that were so strong I had often thought no great loss if she just left and I could play any time I wanted!
The disturbing thing is that online gaming is as much as an addiction as heroine or alcohol. So I realized this (which many don't) and just quit cold turkey. I went through some serious withdrawals to lemme tell you. However, I replaced my addiction for a few more. My wife... and making money. I've never been happier!
My wife and I are even stronger then ever before as a result and if a grumpy old man like myself can manage to kindle a fantastic relationship with my wife anyone can. But let me say this... you are in for a tough battle because much like a drug addiction he will have to quit for his own reasons and will never quit for you or someone else. That's what you have to liken it to. At least I did.
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Maclauren Zuiderduin
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