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Hi
I've just entered into a dom/sub relationship with a married man from another country who visits mine maybe four times a year. I've never been in this kind of relationship before and know little or nothing about it so I seem to be getting things wrong a lot. He insists I never question or challenge him on anything if this is going to work. I once asked a question that he perceived as a challenge and was punished for it with a belt. I didnt enjoy it at the time but afterwards thinking of it turns me on. I need to more about what I should and shouldn't do.

This weekend I told him I was going away overnight to see a gig and by the following afternoon, when I managed to check my email which is how we communicate daily except when he occasionally calls me (obviously I cant call him), there was an email asking where I was and that I was close to being in trouble, to send him my cell phone number. I emailed back to say I would be home in a few hours and would email him then and as I was driving with friends who don't know of this relationship I didnt send him my cell number.

When I got home there were a series of furious emails from him, telling me never to question him or have the audacity to decide whether or not I would follow his wishes, that he would have to punish me for this when he saw me (in about a month) or I would never learn. He says he loves me but I must submit to his will completely and that way paradoxically I will have more freedom than I ever had. I have just come out of a very controllong marriage.

I love him and have beeen very upset all night, not sleeping or eating, waiting to hear from him.

Can somebody help me with how I should behave in this realationship as it's all new to me? I have read about having a 'safeword' but the sex, while rough, has never gone that far yet. He says if I don't learn to obey him completely he will never train me properly. He says he loves and adores me and I feel so bad I have dissapointed him like this.

I hope someone can advise me.