[victoria]

okay so after my message here is his reply:

Evening, Victoria.

I too, think last night was too much, too soon.

After thinking about it, I realize you are in position that is unlike most other young women at the age of 20. Besides the usual challenges of American teens dealing with growing up, hormonal driven emotions and independence, you're having to deal with what we call 'culture shock' too.
Your family is very conservative compared to the typical American family; not necessarily a bad thing. However, you still think of yourself as not being an adult; not a little girl, but not a woman.

Those you go out among every day though see you as a young, attractive woman, much like any other American. The average young man has no concept of asking your father for permission to ask you on a date, for instance. It's a challenge that I think you can handle, but you have to be the bridge between the cultures.

As for your interest in bdsm, I think it's premature. Little one, becoming sexually mature involves one on every level, mental and physically. These feelings are always intense and hard to handle at first. BDSM can be much more intense, and always involves the mind and body. I think you should 'back off' from the BDSM scene and put first things first. And first, you need to open up to others, begin dating, and eventually find love. There's no easy road to travel there, and the bumps and curves are many. It is also exciting, rewarding, and will make you a better person.

You should also be aware that there are very real predators in the BDSM world, and see a young woman like you only as a piece of meat to be consumed. It's dangerous. That's why I feel you need to change directions a bit, back off from this scene, and enjoy your youth. You're a very attractive young woman. Enjoy being attractive, wear something that makes you feel pretty, and give the world (and the young men in it) a chance.

okay so what do you guys think?