Hehe this article in all its different re-writes always makes me laugh.
I'm sure I've read it before somewhere, written in this exact same way.
What it says is true. But I also think confidence as a characteristic is overrated & thrown around too much in seduction circles, but you can see why, its easy to use because everybody knows what it means, especially in the pick-up artist context, however I think the term "confidence" in and of itself, is a bit misleading.
You can actually go out and pick up girls by being un-confident, terribly so. I prefer when dealing with older ladies (10-20 years older, almost double my age)(before my current partner I'll add). That deliberately acting less confident (fiddling with clothes, not looking in the eyes, looking around the room, was both fun & seemed to work better than the guys who were confident, who seldom got anywhere, being unconfident made me more interesting to them).
I think the main thing is to be interesting and make them feel comfortable enough to take you home with them.
Also I know guys who are confident but just never get girls because they just arn't interesting.
Also my partner when I first ever saw her (bless her) I saw she was very un-confident by her body language & it immediately attracted me to her, more so than any confident girl I have ever seen. Her utter anti-confidence reminded me of myself, & I suppose I felt her pain. I saw her and I actually cared (alot) if I was going to screw up my interaction with her/get rejected.
I remember thinking to myself "I'm going to go over there, put butterflies in her stomach, put her on edge & make her dreams come true forever!" & hey 1 1/2 years+ later its going great.
I think what most important is giving someone what they want & making it easy to get, aka being easy to talk to.
So confident people are easy to talk to/interact with and thats why they make lots of ideas (not just love and sexual) spring into peoples heads, thats why they are attractive, they are thought provoking, exciting & interesting.
I think if someone who is shy and talks to someone & shows they are approachable/easy to interact with, (just through trying REALLY hard), they stand just as much chance to get someone to be their friend/sex partner, aslong as they are thought provoking, exciting & interesting, except they will do it in a different way.
of course its not "cool" to "work hard" or "try hard" in todays society. You could argue that someone who trys hard and succeeds in talking to someone is actually being confident, but the difference is the rate the heart is beating really fast & the amount of small deposit left in the undergarments afterwards....
Don't change yourself to be confident, be yourself, & provoke interest & stir desire in people in you OWN way, you'll be much better off than pretending to be something your not.
Perhaps whats most important in attracting people is not letting fear get the better of you. Its o.k. to be scared, but you'll be a better person if you fight against it.
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