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Originally Posted by K. in Cleveland
You can tear on the top or the bottom. It shouldn't be an incredible amount of pain or bleeding. If it continues to bother you, you should talk to your doctor. Even if you do not notice any continued problems it's never a bad thing to ask your doc about it. Believe me, they've seen/heard it all before, so there's no shame in it.
Also, one thing in your post really jumped out at me... you say that you didn't want to have intercourse so you opted for anal sex instead. Maybe I'm just not hip and with it these days, but what's the difference? I mean vaginal penetration can get you pregnant while anal cannot (unless of course there's a fissure) but STDs are still passed this way, and if he's not wearing a condom he can get an infection (let's face it, this isn't the cleanest area of the body) and it can hurt just as much if not more than vaginal penetration. Please explain this to me as I really don't get it.. like I said, maybe I'm out of the loop of what sex is and isn't... and I'm just thinking of former President Clinton here defining oral sex...
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Oh alright. It actually feels much better today. I didn't know at all that I could tear at the bottom also. But thank you for telling me this.
To me, anal and untercourse are different. I don't really know how to explain it, but to me it feels different. When I have anal sex, it's okay, I do enjoy it. And it wasn't painful at all. I Actually thought it would be, But we had a lot of lubricant which helped a lot.
But my boyfriend and I wanted to see how intercourse would feel. It would most likely feel the same to him but more plessurable for me. So we wanted to try but it was painful for me and he only had half of the head of his penis but I really had to stop, it was too much to bare as I said earlier.
He wore a condom. I am aware of the dangers if he didn't. But he's really healthy. He even had a physical not to long ago and everything was fine. We're really only using the condom so I don't get pregnant because we're not ready for a baby at this time.
I don't really know if that helped or not coming from a newbie at sex ><