[blacktears]

I have a big problem with my husband telling little lies. He does this to everyone to prevent a problemed situation. I guess this is why he also lies to me. We'v been together since age 13 so we'v been threw it all. All the heart breaks and rumors of jealouse friends. He is the best husband and dad ever. Works hard, always with the family and loves his 5 girls to death. Helps clean, cook and knows how to please me. His little lies drive me crazy. Few years back he was working at a club for extra money but I asked him to stop. He started sleeping on the couch when he got home from being so tiered from two jobs. Then some of the bills started adding up and I started to wonder. He would ask me to come hang out while he work but it wasn't the best place to be. This is when I started hanging out with someone from work. A few months and one thing lead to another. Something I thought I could never do to my husband. When ever I needed to talk to my husband he wouldn't talk to much, has always put thoughts to the back of his mind instead of fixing them because he doesn't like to fight. So now when I need to talk to him about a problem he always brings up the time I cheated and he gets very hateful (which I completely understand and that's something I brought onto myself) but him not wanting to work on our problems now hurts us both. I will never cheat on him again, it hurts my self-esteam which he doesn't seem to beleive me. How can I get him to hear me out when I need to talk about things he does that bothers me. He says he loves me and wants to be together but for us to be happy again we need to talk problems out when they arise. He thinks blocking every thing out all the time makes them go away. Then they come back later and here we are again, mad at each other and he brings up the cheating. This is what lead me to cheating. He thinks it was for the sex. Not. I know we truely love each other. love sucks some times