Confidence is the ability to act in spite of fear. Or is that the definition of courage? hehe
Well you get my point. You see the reason why we would not feel confident is because in some respect we feel powerless to the outcome of something.
If someone is confident, that means that they KNOW what outcome they are set out to achieve and they 100% believe that they can attain it.
Now I know you are asking this in relationship to asking out girls.
I would say the first step in overcoming this is to actually be more disciplined in building your own self esteem.
How do you do that? By making sure that each and every day you are making small wins.
What is an example of this?
Say for instance you wanted to be more confident with approaching women.
So on the first day to improve yourself esteem you say to yourself that when you are out in public you are going to strike up a random conversation with someone around you. They can be male or female, it can be someone you meet on the bus, who serves you at a restaurant, or someone standing there while you wait in line for something.
Now it is important to build your self esteem not on the results but on taking the actual action.
So you should commend yourself on .. actually getting out there and talking to a stranger .. and no base ur self worth .. on what actually happens when you talk to that stranger (if it was a good or bad interaction).
Then from there, you starts to make these small daily personal growth challenges bigger and bigger, and before you know it you are doing things that you never ever thought you could do or achieve.
Its a little late over here, so hopefully that makes sense =)
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