[blacktears]

Thanks so much for writing me back. I understand we need cousiling for help but my husband tells me it's not going to work. I need advice on how to get him to understand that. He said " it's not going to change what already happened. what's done is done." I've read alot about how to work on things like this and I do believe he can feel little better if he could only open his mind to why this really happened and why it WON'T happen again. He wont give me the chance. He just wants to but it back in his mind and try to move on with our marriage. I know thats not the solution. Maybe I should go to counsiling myself. It's so hard and fustrating because I cheated on him, for not ,including me in things and him always being to himself. I love him so much but is so hard to show it completly because he has me fustraded alot. I'll never cheat again. He could better understand that if he would give us that chance at cousiling. The book ,His needs and Her needs ,helped me on how to talk threw things but he refuses. For about 3 months now I'll ask him if we can talk? Then he'll go to the gym late or have the kids stay up late (I sware to avoid me) which in return pisses me off so I show no affection but then he goes back to thinking I'm not affectionate to him and I don;t love him. Is he repeating this cycle or what? I feel he blams it all on me when he started this from the begining of our marriage. He's so to himself mentaly.