[She_Who_Loves]

Hi, I understand that this is new, but a couple aspects of his behaviour steps outside of the dom/sub relationships that I know of: The way he called you and seemed to want control of that part of your life when you were out doing your own thing. Things vary person to person, but have you and he discussed where this is heading, what parts of your relationship will fit where? Is this purely a sexual dom/sub without aspects pervading your day to day life? Will this only apply while he is in town, or when he's far away? Will you still be his slave while in public? Would it/he prevent you from completing any of your goals?
The second thing: If I understood earlier, this relationship is kept secret from his wife? Are you okay with that? In the dom/sub relationships of my experience where the couple has other partners one of the key tenets of respect is that all parties are aware of all activities between each other. This includes when members of different pairings or groups engage in activities with one another. The basis of sub/dom is respect of all the individuals involved.