OK, if you've been here for awhile you have probably figured out that I enjoy trying to get people to think and talk, and share their thoughts... Well here's something where I hope to promote discussion and education for anyone considering swinging, or already into the lifestyle...
This past weekend we had the honor of meeting a very nice couple who are new to the swinging thing. They had played with one couple before, and because of their experience almost gave up on the idea! For the purpose of education I'm going to share their experience.
Both couples had never tried swinging before, so neither one of them really knew what to do. Our friends had both been with other partners before they met each other, but the other couple had not... and were admittedly into "rough sex".
Well, our friends thought they liked it a little rough too, from time to time... So after a few drinks and hors de vours, they were off to separate rooms to play, or so they thought. They left feeling more like they had been raped and abused, and she didn't even want to talk about it until a few hours after they got home...
So, what went wrong? Well, this other couple both enjoyed very rough sex, BDSM to the point of enjoying blood being drawn... and our friends did not, they thought "rough sex" was something totally different. So, how can this be avoided? In my eyes, seeing as they were both new, they should have talked a lot more before hand, explaining what each of them actually enjoyed. During sex, they should have spoken up saying "Wait a minute, that hurts, please stop!" and afterwards, they definitely should have spoken with each other, saying what was good and what was bad. Also, for everyone's first time, maybe separate room wasn't a great thing... this can be difficult for some long time swingers to deal with...
Now, for discussion, does anyone else have a "Swinging gone wrong" story they'd like to share? Please feel free to post... or if you're too embarassed to have your name, send me a private message and I'll post it anonymously for you
It's always good to learn from others' experiences.