Major red flags here! If you feel he's testing you, he probably is. The day will come when you won't pass one of the made-up tests, because you're not sure what the criteria for passing are.
The first thing you need to do is put on the brakes on this relationship and don't let it go any further toward commitment until the two of you work this out. I know the relationship is great when this issue isn't a problem, but that's like having a ferrari that costs $15,000, gets 80 miles to a gallon, but explodes periodically. relationships aren't any fun if you're just sitting and waiting for the blow-up. Personality incompatibility is a major red flag, and that's what I'm hearing in your posts.
Ultimately, this is a conversation that only the two of you can have. If he is unwilling or unable to change, then the question for you becomes "Are you willing to live with this for the rest of your life?" If not, the kindest thing to do is to end it at this stage.
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