Hi Lee.
Sounds to me like she got cold feet. Long distance relationships can be difficult because we are for lack of a better word "pack animals" and need to feel like we are part of a pack, we need that closeness and support structure.
You also have the added complexity of family issues...
It's perfectly OK to feel hurt and rejected by her comments, but you have to recognize that you cannot control how she feels or behaves. Both of you have to agree if you want the relationship to continue as it has. If one person decides to back out, the other partner has to accept it.
If I were in your place, I would try to empathize with her feelings and her concerns. Don't minimize them and don't try to 'fix' them. Men always want to fix things and women just want to be heard and understood.
Don't fall into the "friend zone" unless you want to be just friends.
You can however be there for her and let her know that you want more from the relationship and that you are willing to give her some time to sort out her feelings.
Perhaps you could find a way to actually meet her in person?
|