[Michele in Kentucky]

Take it from someone who has been cheated on twice, we would rather you didn't try to hang on for the sake of our feelings or some promised relationship. We would rather be hurt now than devastated later. If you are having strong enough feelings for another girl that you are saying "damn" about your connection with her (damn in a "hot damn" good way), you are not ready to make a committment to someone else. When you speak about your girlfriend, I can actually hear the "hoo hum, I promised and I gotta stick to it" or "I'm gonna hurt her bad and I don't want to in your voice." I don't hear the "damn" when you talk about her. You may have committmet issues and if you do, this is also something you should work on BEFORE you go any further with your girlfriend. It sounds like you need to come clean and take a break to both work on your committment issues and to find out if there really is something between you and this other girl. But you most certainly don't need to move forward in your current relationship when you are having these feelings and when you feel like you "have to." If it is meant to be with your girlfriend, you need to fix yourself first. You owe that to her more than any "future promise" before any real committment has been made or the both of you will live to regret it. Hope I helped and wish you both the best.