Jebb: I've read through this entire post, and I think you're getting some really excellent advice from Michelle and Xero. What you are describing is very common, if not universal. This statement caught my eye:
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"whoa...am i really gonna be with her forever?"
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The unspoken, and probably unconscious conclusion to that statement is "Someone better might come along." I once broke up with a girl because of those very same feelings. Looking back, I jumped the gun.
My best advice to you is that you don't have to make a decision this second. One of my friends from Japan uses the analogy of allowing muddy water to settle until it becomes clear again. I agree with you that it sounds like you've got some "grass is greener" thinking going on. You want to make sure you're not chasing the excitement of a new relationship. Because your new relationship will sooner or later become your old relationship.
I agree with Michelle; don't cheat. End it before that happens. I would give it some time and see what my feelings are. I think everyone goes through those feelings at one point or another.
You might want to consider if you aren't spending too much time together.