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Pretty solid forum, I'm glad I came across while browsing YouTube. See, I'm in kind of a dilemma, and I'm in need of some actual advice. Now, I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over two years now, and like every couple, we've had our ups and our downs. The only issue I've been running into, is that her ideals on sex differentiate from mine. During the first few months we started dating, she claimed to be chased, and that she wasn't planning on changing her mind on it. I figured it was just her school, and that she would grow out of it, because Chasity is a joke in my opinion, especially whereas she learned it from her religious private school and I'm not in the least bit religious.

I find it to be wrong that I had to change my ideals about sex, and every time I've brought it up, she gets angry with me because she says I bring it up too much. While in reality, I don't bring it up all that often. We haven't had sex yet, and it bugs me. It wasn't what I was raised upon to wait until marriage for sex, and it's not something I feel that I should have to wait through. I've talked to her, tried getting her in the mood, but every time it just seems like it gets shot down. We do other things, but once the topic of sex comes up, she says it's a no no.

Two years is a long time to just throw away over something like this, but I start worrying that if she had the power to control this, what's going to stop her from making another long-term negative effect on me in the future, and I'll be expected to just go along with it...? Not only that, but I shouldn't have to change my ideals about love or sex just because of the girl that I'm dating.

I've dreamed about cheating on her, something that I would never in my right mind ever do. But it's to the point where it's effecting me emotionally?

Now, is this something I should be concerned about to the point where I might want to consider breaking things off? Should I approach it a different way, if so which way would you suggest? I don't think I'm doing anything wrong, I've been with two other girls previous to her, and those relationships worked out just fine.