i aggree with melody. it would best if you could give your feelings and needs an honest assestment. it's hard to be selfish at times, but you know the whole truth here with where his feelings are confused.
maybe it would be best to take some time away from him too. yes, i know that's what his ex wanted, but actually time away for you would help both you and him see where you both stand in each others life.
sometimes, us women see a man that is so 'perfect' in our eyes. we learn that he is hurt and somewhat emotionally unavailable. our motherly instinct kicks in, and we think we can nurture them back to health.
sometimes us women love the game of trying to win the guys heart when another woman is involved. we like to compete too...
time isn't your enemy. taking things slow will benefit you both. this will give him time to heal, and it will give you time to develope his trust by being his loyal friend and not some needy, clingy, demanding woman.
good luck
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