Dan here. Sorry, this post is just a little rant-y.
While this sounds funny at first, it's a serious question. Check out this youtube video we posted on YouTube this morning.
Watching My Wife Get Banged By A Well Endowed Man...
The early comments on this YouTube video were downright scary! It's amazing how many men live in secret fear that their woman will leave them the moment she finds a larger penis!
Ladies and gentlemen, don't laugh, this is a serious issue. In fact, I had to coin a new word today for this bizarre condition...
Peniphobia - the irrational, baseless fear that your wife / girlfriend will leave you for another man with a larger penis, regardless of whether or not you have a great love and sex life, and in spite of the commonly known fact that the penis is only one of the MANY ways to sexually stimulate your female partner.
* The common misconception among men that the penis is THE way to stimulate a female sexually is one of the prime reasons such a high percentage of adult women have never even experienced an orgasm, and why so many actually fake orgasms. Seriously, has anyone ever heard of a man faking an orgasm?
Sadly the Urban Dictionary informs me that someone has previously coined this term, i.e. "Peniphobia occurs when one is afraid of penises." But frankly, I like my definition better since it applies to such a large segment of the population, so we're commandeering it. Onward!
Possible early onset symptoms of peniphobia...
- you find yourself checking out other men's penises regularly to spot potential danger!
- you practice a daily penis strength training regimen with dumbbells.
- you find yourself lashing out with belligerent attacks when someone even mentions the idea of having sex with multiple partners, especially the idea of another man. Note however that additional women are always hot. LOL
"Now his wife will start to think less of him - eventually - and go for the Pete North sized guy! It is a bad decision to get shown up in the bedroom."
-- a YouTube viewer
"Sorry to say, only a degenerate/coward would willingly give his wife away (fantasies are one thing, but actually doing it?). no, it's NOT "normal", it's pathetic... "
-- another YouTube viewer
"i agree its pathetic ..marriage vows are replaced by adultery ..like your a pimp and your wife is your ho .. whack job for hire"
-- another YouTube viewer
Potential causes of peniphobia:
- low self esteem
- lackluster or non-existent sex life
- deep jealousy issues (see item 1 re: self esteem)
- living under the extremely common misconception that the male penis is THE only way to sexually stimulate your female partner. Granted many women (especially those who have never even experienced an orgasm) may also believe that "bigger is better".
In truth, having a "good size and shape match" between the penis and the vagina is ideal. A penis substantially larger than the "normal" shape of the particular woman's vagina will be just as bad or worse than a substantially smaller penis.
Seriously, please leave a comment with your thoughts below.
Then
visit the youtube video page here and leave an intelligent comment - it's sorely needed. LOL
Disclaimer: This post is not intended in any way to constitute medical or psychological advice or guidance in any way. If you believe you may be suffering from peniphobia please take some self esteem courses and buy your wife some flowers and chocolates (and chocolate flavored condoms) immediately.
In all seriousness - anytime a couple brings another person (or couple) into their sex life, that is a very serious decision that should be well thought through and considered carefully. There's really no "putting the genie back in the bottle". Sure the particular activities can be discontinued, but the experiences will still be there.
Also if you have any jealousy issues then this is not for you, until you know for certain that you've resolved your jealousy issues and have complete trust and openness in your relationship.
But the fact remains that many couples enjoy sharing their sex lives with others (men, women, couples) and it works for them. In those cases there is absolutely nothing wrong with what they are doing - it's simply a question of whether or not it works in the given situation for the couples and/or singles in question.
Dan