Hey Chris,
It sounds like you've been through alot since you met krystal. I know situations like these can be confusing as hell and can break your entire life apart and ruin all your existing relationships.
I dated a beautiful girl years ago with whom I had similar experiences. She would want to be with me but then people would tell me she was hooking up with other guys and she would tell me lies just to stay with me and all kinds of other nonsense. I was emotionally broken down and felt powerless, resorting to manipulation to get love from her just as she was doing to me.
It took me a few years to fully get my head on straight after this but I came to learn some valuable lessons.
The main thing is that I've come to realize that seemingly bad relationships like this
are a gift.
The women in our life are extremely good at finding out weaknesses and pointing them out (either by their words or by their actions).
If we are honest, we can learn A TON about ourselves simply by the way women act toward us.
For me I realized a few things:
My gf lied to me constantly. What did this mean? It meant I wasn't honest with her. I looked into the relationship and realized that many of the times I wouldn't be honest with her because I didnt want to upset her or I wanted her to love me or I wanted to get sex from her.
My gf talked bad about me behind my back. What did this mean? It meant that I didn't stand up for myself enough and respect myself enough to cut people out of my life if they didnt treat me well.
My gf flirted with other guys. What did this mean? It means that I was turning into a doormat and letting her walk all over me. She would try to get away with as much as she could to see what me true inner standards are. Where did I draw the line?
Everything she did was a clear message to me about the way I was living.
Initially I blamed her for all this cheating and badmouthing and treating me badly. Eventually though, the truth that I ultimately realized is this:
A woman can only do that which you already do to yourself. If you are honest with yourself, have high standards and treat others well, then you better believe that a girl you are dating will act the same.
When you treat yourself with respect, honor, and love, there is no way in hell that someone else is going to come into your life and treat you badly. By definition, allowing someone to treat you in a negative way is not honoring and loving yourself.
So what to do?
For me, its all about the relationship with my self. I had to go in a face lots of places where I had been manipulative or hurtful to others. I learned to forgive and let go of emotional hurts. I learned to be honest about others. I learned to find love from myself and not NEED it from anyone (that is a big one).
What ended up happening?
I developed some standards in my life with women:
-I only like women that like me. If I have to DO things to impress or convince them to like me, I immediately let go.
-I do not accept any manipulative or needy behavior from women. If there is a sort of wishy washy relationship that they are kind of with me and kind of not, I end it immediately. I only accept love and respect, I'm not some playtoy they can use whenever they are feeling down.
-I am completely honest with women. If they dont like it, thats ok with me. If they dont want to be with me, I honor their choice. I cant live their life, I can onlylive mine.
A practical tool I've used to get over my old relationships is EFT.
EFT - How to Overcome Any Fear in Minutes with this Emotional Freedom Technique | Yang Town
If I were in your shoes, I would ask myself what I clearly want in terms of a relationship with a woman. Then I would make a commitment to myself to accept nothing less than that.
Have you been honest with yourself about Josh and Krystal?
Have you been needy or manipulative with either Josh or Krystal?
She says you shouldnt see other women yet she's been stringing you along. Is that acceptable to you?
It all comes down to having integrity to yourself. The outside world reflects whats on the inside.
Hope that helps, all the best.
Ryan