Clint,
To answer your question, yes, you are doing something wrong. Either that, there is something that you aren't doing at all. From the looks of it, you are stuck on the whole "nice guys vs. jerks" thing. This by the way is a totally messed up way of thinking, it's not about being nice or being jerk. Take a look at this post for a good example:
What Nice Guys Need to Know
Let me ask you, do you buy girls drinks? do you buy them flowers? do you take them out to fancy restaurants? If girl asks you for a favor, would you drop everything just to do something for her? do you always agree with a woman's point of view? do you treat women like princesses?
Listen, it's not that you have to be a jerk to attract women, in fact that will only make things worse. However, what you don't want to be is a push-over. You don't want to put the woman up on a pedestal. Instead, you need to put yourself up on a pedestal. You need to raise your own value.
I know it may go against your grain. You were probably raised to treat women in the way you do now. Forget about that stuff for now and start thinking about yourself. Seems a bit selfish right? Absolutely.
So what do you do? Don't listen to the "just be yourself" advice, it's the worst advice ever invented. There's a saying, "To continue doing the same things over and over and expecting different results is insanity." Start improving yourself, making your life better, raising your value. Start making your own decisions, don't be a push-over, speak your mind. Don't be afraid to drop a woman who walks all over you. I suppose when all is said and done, what you really need is a pair of balls.
This might not sit well with you but I hope it was at least helpful.
Regards