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Originally Posted by sassy in PA
I have a girlfriend who wants me to participate in a threesome with her and her boyfriend. I am married and my husband does not know about this.
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Hi sassy, welcome!
OK, stop right there. Going behind your husband's back is really a recipe for disaster and could end your marriage. Please forgive me if I misunderstood, but that's how the question read to me.
Many people take swinging and open relationships to mean that you can just have sex with others and it's ok. in fact we just watched the latest episode of SwingTown, and they showed a preview for next week's show - in that scene, the husband got caught cheating with another woman and he lashed out at his wife, saying that she started the whole idea of opening up their marriage.
In reality, whatever you and your significant other agree on is what's ok - never more. It's by no means an open permit to have sex with others without telling your partner about it. That's a very fine line indeed, but it comes down to honesty and openness, a must for a happy relationship - and couples that stay within that line have a wonderful experience.
Please don't take this as picking on you, absolutely not, the question just set off a strong warning flag for me. :-)
The question then becomes, would you and your husband be interested in opening your sex life to others - not specifically your friend and her husband, but just others. Once you iron that out, you can start looking at potential playmates.
Dan