It may be a bit like impotence. The more you think about it the more anxious you become and the less likely you are to be "successful." Saying "just relax" doesn't help, I know.
But perhaps just deciding to enjoy the feeling and not focus on the orgasm might help for a while.
I can't always orgasm from oral sex (fellatio) either. It feels great but I just don't cum. So after around 15 minutes I tell my wife that is enough. And we don't try to analyze it or worry about it. Sometimes, though, after we fool around a bit more she will go down on me again. Same "rule", though. But often I cum the second time around.
If you can keep it from being about the orgasm you might find your way back to that again in the future.
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