First of all relax. You are a normal young person who is willing to get to know themselves better. This is outstanding.
Second, stop worrying about the orgasm. The more you think about it, the harder it is to achieve. Take your time. Find out what feels good when you touch yourself. Sure, orgasms are part of the experience of masturbation, but it's also about giving pleasure to yourself. Explore and take your time. Eventually, it will "come." (pun intended.)
Imho, masturbation is sex with yourself. Sex isn't only about orgasm. Sex is about intimacy and giving each other pleasure. So, since you're having sex with yourself, give yourself some intimacy and pleasure!
Finally, (this may sound harsh, but I firmly believe this) if *you* do not know what gives you pleasure, how do you expect your partner to be able to pleasure you?
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