[supergimpoman]

Hey all, first thread,

I'm in a bit of a situation here. I'm a recently divorced young man (I'm 20). The woman that I married is the one that initiated the divorce. Let me make this clear from the start, we didn't fight, yell or even have disagreements. I'll describe how our relationship went..

We met online a few years back during our senior year of high school. She lived a state away from me, but we started dating long distance. All we really did is talk to eachother online or over the phone. Anywhoo, that summer after I graduated I flew out to her house to meet her. We found out that we really were what the other person was expecting. She moved out to where I lived and our relationship continued to progress and grow. About two years after we decided to move to her home state and get married. About two months after the ceremony we divorced.

Like I said, we didn't fight. We didn't even argue or anything. Our problem was my laziness, my unwillingness to grow and become an adult. Let me say a little bit about myself to explain why I felt the way I did..

I'm a paraplegic. I got Cerebral Palsy from an innoculation at 3 months old. Luckily, I have a light case of CP and it only effects my legs, I can't walk.

Back to what I was saying.. the reason why I was unwilling was mostly fear. I don't know if you'll understand or not, but being disabled effects ones confidence and goals in life. Now, I have done a lot that most other disabled people haven't done or would dream of doing.. but getting a job is just something that scared me. I'm not much for people or large crowds or anything like that, that may be a reason why.

Anywho, that was her reason for divorcing me. I totally respect and understand why she made the choice that she did.

Now here's my current dilemma..

There's a girl who I've known for about 6 years now, also met online and haven't met. But I feel a very strong bond and connection with her. She's going to be moving across the country out to where I am in a few months time.

(not only because of me, but also because the area is really beautiful and possible job opportunites.. but then again, she could move back to her original home in another state) ((she moved while we were talking online to another state))

I'm nervous as hell because I've had feelings for her since I've known her. She's extremely intelligent, beautiful and a wonderful person to talk to. I'm nervous because I haven't officially asked her out yet, but she's already making plans on the move.. and I know that she has feelings for me as well.

I want to know if it'd be best for me to wait it out and tell her how I feel in person, or tell her before she makes the move.

I'm sorry if this was extremely confusing.. just thought I should give a little background on myself before anything.

Thank you so much for your thoughts!
~Logan